Mine doesn't even talk to me properly until i have accomplished something good. Sounds a bit harsh but happens. 

Welcome to the club you ain't alone well you still get a conversation with your dad

I wish my dad talked to me more. 

Family

I don’t like my dad at all he’s not a good human being.

Relationships

Abusive fathers belong to a special place in hell.

Anxiety

I came to stay with my parents after a long time. My Dad and I never got along. My aunt and uncle don't think I am a good person. They keep praising my dad. I get it he is my dad and I should listen and all. But there are fundamental issues underlying he has cheated on my mom, I have seen him staring at women inappropriately, he has never shown respect for my hardwork in school and work. Even though I was always an exceptional student, my opinions in childhood were always laughed at, (anything from eco-friendly Ganpati, to asking for basic respect towards women, asking for help at home) however he is very good at communicating with his side relatives, he gives them much easier than I ever got for education. His thoughts align with his side relatives. 
I have always been perceived as a rebel, manner less daughter for speaking back at people. Recently I spoke back at my dad after he criticized new bride's facial features. (We had went to a wedding)

And I became a bad person for speaking back to him. My uncle and aunt were backing him up. The thing is I don't even live with these people anymore, I live abroad. And when it comes to my wedding I am gonna need these people on my side. They don't respect me I don't respect them. I don't know what am I going to do when I will want to get married. Also, I am tired of becoming a bad person. How would you behave going forward in such situation? 



3am Thoughts

i used say that i hate my dad, he was abusive, all this time i was carrying the trauma, im learning to let it all go. he's my dad after all. i never thought ill let go of all of those. it feels strange but am trying. ik my dad loves me. but sometimes i just can't help but hate him. am i weird ?

My relationship with my father is becoming confusing. I have always found patriarchal society very annoying, and seeing my father scolding my mom, while she does all her work, telling me to learn household chores, or telling me to not get a tattoo, or probably telling me to do something because I am girl, and I am supposed to do it, has made me a rebel. I don't listen to whatever he says. I avoid him, I can't sit with him and listen him talking about such things. He is a very good person, but just the patriarchal part of my father, and his anger scares me so much. I don't even talk to him because I am scared that he would scold me if I don't agree with his viewpoint. 
When I don't listen to him, he says that maa ne bigaad dia hai, and zubaan chalne laggyi hai. 
I don't know what to do

Parenting

My (step)dad is always so mad and I don't know what to do anymore. I'm 17, turning 18 in July, and he's been my dad for about 11 years now. I love him a lot and I'm glad he's in my life, but I'm so tired of his temper. When he's mad, he'll do one of three things- mumble angrily under his breath, stuff like "no one in this house does anything fuckin right", he'll stomp around and practically throw things he's moving or handling, or he storms off somewhere else, usually his and my mom's room. Sometimes he yells and it's always scary, even when I'm the oldest child. He used to yell a lot before but he's done it less over the years. I know his life is hard with 3 kids, one going into college, and his work life is absolutely shit. But I wish he would at least try to work on himself a little and not be so mad all the time. I want my dad back, I'm tired of dealing with a fifty year old toddler throwing tantrums every week over work or other stuff. I don't think talking will solve the issue, I'm scared to talk to him about major things because of how he just sighs and acts like it's a huge burden to even speak to me. I'm exhausted and I wish I could do something that's not just going to make him more mad 

I hope when I'm an adult I never have to look my dad in the face again

So i was just brainstorming about some random things and suddenly like a rewind video of my childhood traumas played through my mind. Just wanted to vent it out here. So my mom and dad both r on job even b4 they were married. They are two strong headed people and often have opinion clashes and i grew up listening to their verbal fights about finances, properties,management, loans. Basically they lacked communication which lead to misunderstanding and then it would heat upto a fight. Ofcourse all this affected us(me and my younger bro) mentally. We have seen it since childhood. But has fortunately vanished as they communicate and things are going pretty well [touchwood]. Actually there was one more reason behind the fights betn mom and dad it was that my dad cheated on my mom like 4 to 5 times with different women. She'd come to know about it and then a fight and this continued. He doesn't do it anymore as we have grown up and unfortunately i myself saw 3 of these incidences with my eyes but i was too small to understand whats happening[it's traumatizing now]. Due to this my mom tried to kill herself twice. Once she haded a suicide note to me but fortunately nothing bad happened. That note shattered me as a kid. I almost felt lifeless for a moment. I don't know if it's true but my dad claims that those things happened due to a black magic. Don't want to talk about it deeply. I feel my father has genuinely changed now he does everything to make us happy and since almost five years he gives his best even before he wasn't a bad human being he did all that a dad would do for his childeren but unfortunately he wasn't a good husband. But sadly i remember the past clearly and i have forgiven him for his past miatakes. But sometimes i just think like he made my childhood traumatized and above all he made my mom go through all that crap[i hated him like nothing] but my mom said that hate will just rip us apart. Let's make a fresh start and live like a happy family since then things are going smooth![evil eyes off] it was a horrible child hood though. I cried while thinking of it and felt like expressing. Plz don't say anything bad about my parents they learnt from their mistakes and that's what matter. I love them!

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