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@shreya29

I was in relationship with my bf for 3 years. Later he started controlling me a lot which I did not like. I tried my best to be with him but finally ended up breaking up with him bcoz srsly it was too much of pain to take . Now he blames me for everything nd his frnds also blame me 🥲… I am so depressed rn i am nt even using any of the social media except this one.
I just want anyone who can get me out from this :')

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Krishna @krishu_01

First of all no one literally no one help you on this…

You just have to accept it…

Take 100% responsibility of your situation…

You know it’s take time,dump him his friends from everywhere…

@shreya29

Yeah ikkkk🥺

Krishna @krishu_01

Yeah hell it’s okay to go through the emotion i was in your same situation… but i overcome it by using the 4 step grief…

Yash vir @yashvir1951

i m just a noob in this
but i wanna help

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siva @thanika

Hi

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shiva kumar @shivavolley99

Controlling you like what…can you elaborate

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Dante @varun24

Time heals…have patience…give yourself time first…enjoy small small things…do things you like …be with people you like…it may divert your mind from all negative thoughts…will help you to move on

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nobody @n0_user

Try to move on change the place

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Rafique Khan @zoobiedoobie

Zindagi main aise bohot log ayenge Jo kahenge tumhari galti thi liken kudh Jo kiye na tumne woh tumhari choice thi woh tumhe acha lagta tha uss waqt tha , zaroori nahi ki jo hua woh bura tha liken Haan yeh zaroori hai ki jo hua acha hua kyuki nahi hota toh shayad tumhe grow karne ka mauka nahi milta but ab kudh ko dekho app and feel Karo you are something more without him and now you can truly enjoy the way you want your life to be , udaas hona ek pal ke liye thik hai liken us udaasi ko hi zindagi main jodna thik nahi, time lagega 3 saal easy nahi hote but I can definitely say 1 month lagega agar tumhari surrounding main woh log AA jaye jo tumhe chaiye , woh toxic na ho , Jo tumhe cherish kare and tumhe motivate kare toh bohot easy hai and yup you will be good 😊

@shreya29

Awww it was really heart touching 🥺♥️

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Sumith Pradeep @noobmaster...

You gotta move on buddy… I’ve almost faced something like that before… but you can keep think about it and running away/ hide from it… gotta face it… after all it wasn’t you’re fault.

@shreya29

But everyone thinks i am bad just bcoz i broke up with him… even after bearing his anger words nd literally everything

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Sumith Pradeep @noobmaster...

Don’t mind them… its normal… believe in yourself buddy… trust me you can get through it… does moving out of social media makes you feel any better? I bet the answer is no… so let it be

@nnreddy

Just chill …talk with your friends related to. Movie or. Travel… Don’t think much

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varun @varun733

Easy…stay positive, first maje your self comfortable…stay buzzy , in my opinion you guys judge too much … so think and take some time …all problems will get settle, and don’t blame anyone … we cannot clap wit single hand …first love your self , so other people get you know how to love you…

@shreya29

Wt do u mean we guys judge too much…he hd my insta pass nd he used to block if any boi texts me nd he fought with me just bcoz i hd went out with my boi frnds

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Anonymous

Hmm…He want to give more security to you …and you also tell him wat you don’t like abot him…positive side …He was gurding you

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Anonymous

I did tell him that. When i told him tat i don’t like this controlling nd all he told that i have started hating him 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Anonymous

If he’s good from heart…ok let it be … but mind give various suggestions that will not parment… u just control the situation…

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Anonymous

See I was am in your boyfriend’s position only right now and I am fucking so depressed and stressed about the break up but you know what it’s better for you guys that you just cut off all communication and just move on in life because once you stop loving that person there is no use in feel bad about it , you either adjust with all his anger or just leave him and when you have already left him why feel bad for doing it you did something for yourself and it’s okay to be selfish sometimes , you know what the harsh reality is my gf left me after 4 years of being together and I was fucking in a shock still I get nightmares about everything just happy hoping she is happy without me in her life ☺️☺️

@shreya29

Yeah true…hope so u find the right one in ur future:)

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Anonymous

I wanna tell you something if the guy really loved you naa he would want you to be happy whether you are with him or without him , so in case you wanna make him feel any better please cheer up and be happy, I wish the same from my ex and yeah I also hope I get somone soon enough to hear my bakwas 😂 , and all this is just my suggestion it’s upto you how you take it

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Anonymous

He do loves me but i feel like i am in a toxic relationship with him . Everytime I try to make him feel better he brings up the past things nd in return turns my mood off

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Anonymous

See I was exactly like that I fought daily with her and made her cry so much that she forgot how to laugh and smile I was really super toxic , I guess you can change that only by giving him assurance and reminding him of the good old times ,in the worst situation you can just tell him what life without you would be for him , dekh yaar I also loved like hell and I guess I still do but she is gone and fucking hates me now I am here regretting everything that I did , yaar if I ever knew what it is living without her , pakka sab kuch chod deta 🥺🥺

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Anonymous

Idk who u r or where u r from…
.but i swear the same thing is happening to me nd just like u he has hurted me a lot like really a lot now i hate to see his face…just like the way u are regretting now in the same way he is regretting but i am telling you it’s waste regretting after the damage is done 🥲

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Anonymous

I am broken person like your boyfriend See I agree what was done was very wrong but for all those years of love don’t you think we guys deserve a second chance for proving that we still love you the same as we used to , and Haan yaar hogyi galti uski koi saza dedo aise chod ke jane se hum tuth jate hain , today I am fucking broken into peices , all those cryful and sleepless night keep haunting me , every fucking day I pray for her and deep down ask forgiveness from her , have you ever loved someone so much that when they leave the world seems to end it’s exactly the same thing that’s happened to me , and my situation is totally different, I fucking love her more than anything else in the world but still it ended with me not even getting a proper closure , seriously 4 years of relationship was just finished on a phone call fucking seriously and it’s been 3 months now and I still imagine where did I fucking go wrong that she had to leave

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Anonymous

Idk how many chances she hd given to u but i gave many chances to my bf … He was good for few days nd thn was back to his oldself

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Anonymous

She didn’t even give me a chance to tell my side of the story , pata nahi yaar it’s really heartbreaking You wanna discuss about this in personal chat?

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Anonymous

Yeah i would like to…my id: shreya29

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Anonymous

I have sent you request accept so that we can discuss it

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Anonymous

Hey im a girl we can talk if u want

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Anonymous

Ya i would love to

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Anonymous

Drop ur id

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Anonymous

Whts ur id?

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Anonymous

Shreya29

@kai_06

See shreya first of relax and just ignore him and the people saying any thing regarding this and just live your life to fullest and relationships & stuff are gonna come & go so just think about yourself that’s it, prioritise yourself and if you don’t mind then we connect with eachother…

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Himanshu heman @himanshu_h...

Are u same Shreya ik frm Delhi ?

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Anonymous

Noo…idk who u r

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Anonymous

Oh no issue, where u frm?

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Anonymous

See…firstly, as far as blaming u goes…every person blames their partner for a relationship failing so don’t be too concerned about his friends calling you names or something…secondly, 3 years is a long time… it’ll take time to come out of it properly… don’t rush yourself…u did the right thing by breaking up because no one…not u…not ur partner deserves to be controlled…he didn’t ever own u…but yeah… it’ll take time, u gotta resist the urge to go back for a while

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Anonymous

Yeah true💯…i am trying my best to come out from tat

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Anonymous

Don’t rush…it took me a whole year to come out of my own and maybe I’m not even 100% out of it yet. It’ll be slow but in the end it’ll be worth it. Trust yourself. If u want we can connect, I can help you maybe if u want my help.😊

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Land of Blues @landofblues

Very matured comment. 🙏

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Land of Blues @landofblues

You cared. You loved. He didn’t.
It’s that easy. Now can you see, who is the true, nice hearted one here?it’s you!!!

If you ever need to talk, we are here for you. His abuse is making you think things that are hurting you even more.😔

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Anonymous

Yeahhh 😭😭…

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Anonymous

It’s just a phase of life. Accept it.
When a boy leaves a girl… Then girl n hir frnds use to abuse the boy. And same the boys do. So… Don’t take seriously. It was his luck… That he is enjoying his time wd you.
But now… You are fortunate enough… That he hurting your feelings.
So… Start everything.
Boost yourself… Live Life Comrade!

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Anonymous

*he is not hurting your feelings.

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Anonymous

But i swear i haven’t done anything bad to him

Anonymous @d_sachdeva

No matter for how long you were with him, nothing gives him the right to control you in the first place. Every girl deserves to be treated like a queen by their king, if he is not doing so then either you are with the wrong king or he is not a king at all and you should throw out his and his friends’ stupid controlling ass out of your life. Let us connect and talk to new people, you will find it surprising how right people can change your life just by talking to you. Take care @shreya29

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Anonymous

💯💯…yeah i would love to

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Anonymous

you did the right thing. honestly i would hate if someone who is really close to my heart starts controlling me and my interests and actions. it would be like not having a life to myself.
if he and his friends blame you, i suggest you don’t listen to them. you did the right thing and they’re just people who failed doing the wrong one. it’s definitely not your mistake.

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Anonymous

Awwww tat was really good advice 🥺♥️

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