I want to be in relationship but I can’t connect with anyone … I am so affraid… like my past relationships were so bad people used me and dumped me. They were so emotionally abusive. They body shamed me … always abused me emotionally and made me feel like I am so dumb…Though I was in a relationship I was their puppet … I don’t know I know its my fault like not once but twice I choose such guys …
Now I feel worthless… idk why I am so afraid of going close to someone… I have scenarios like what if my relationship with someone doesn’t workout … If I won’t be perfect one for him he would hit me or abuse me …
(Starting mai sab ache hote hai but baad mai people show their true colour…)
chnrv @chnrv
Hey hey look I was in your situation for years bro. People will down me for no reason! They hate me just for my looks and body!
But here is the thing, not everyone hates you. In my situation, that guy whom I talked about, was gaslighting me… which made me think that I have no friends.
After I got to know about that I investigated every single people around me and found out that not everyone hate me, only a few. After finding it I prioritise my friends and enemies, and I was no more a victim of that bitch.
It took me years to realise it bro, but after I realised my life improved a lot.
Idk about your situation bro but here is the thing, not everyone in this world hates you… it is because of that one person(your enemy) who makes you hate this world, so if you find that guy say “you mother f**** bi***” and never talk to him. And improve your relationship with other good people.
chnrv @chnrv
I think this won’t help you, since you want a mate… in my case all were friends
We have common friends whenever we make plans for hanging out … It is so weird for me half of the girls doesn’t like me as they are his friends (Some of them have crush on him …) … There are only 2 3 people who likes me but whenever I accompany my friends they kind of ignore me …(Some bitches won’t talk to me in front of him just to be in his good books and other they when he is not around they would consider my presence and talk to me…)
chnrv @chnrv
Go find new ones! Maybe it’s somewhere your heart lies?!
After so much drama in a relationship or someone pulling you down so badly why you want to be in relationship ? (don’t consider this in negative way ) why you want someone to keep you happy or joyful or enjoyable, we can do this in single life. Just ask yourself. And if you don’t learn from your past, situations/people will reappear again and again until you wont learn from them. I hope it helps. If you feel hurt or something from my words then I am sorry I have no intentions to hurt you
