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I thought I was in love with an intelligent and practical guy. But was too blind to see the red flags in the first place. He was not just a red flag but a whole red forest. What are the early signs of an abusive guy?

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One habit to look for is if he drinks regularly or occassionally. Such guys are always turns out abusive in the end.

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Maybe

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Anonymous
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I don’t need such kind of romance in my life.

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Anonymous
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I do think that drinking can alter the normal functioning of a person’s mind to some extent which could lead to such results.

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Burnoool

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Raza Khan @thegentleguide

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I can say some that I personally feel

1. Drinking/smoking often.
2. Not treating other people well (especially lower than him in status).
3. Abusing and swearing a lot.
4. Having lots of female friends.
5. Arrogant.

Again, I could be wrong here.

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Right!

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Raza Khan @thegentleguide

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Just try to detect this prior next time onwards and you shall be fine. All the best.

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Drinking is not a good sign for me, it is also not seen as a decent behaviour in society. So if a drinks guys and expects not to be judged that can’t be the case.

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Raza Khan @thegentleguide

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True that. I don’t like girls who smoke and drink.

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u_can't_c_me @modern_sprou...

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Atleast, he is being genuine. Unlike, others who pretend to be a gentleman.

Every relationship has a fading phase. When u lose interest in person u find reasons to quit.

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Oh yeah? He being abusive is a good sign. I think it might be normal for you not for me. Don’t enforce your thinking on me. Already had a similar experience with such dominating guys before.

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u_can't_c_me @modern_sprou...

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When people don’t have the freedom to curse their partner then they are not in genuine relationship.

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u_can't_c_me @modern_sprou...

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I’m a man.
Men generally, have anger issues
Only nerds , tolerate the girl’s taunting.

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Anonymous
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Agreed but still not in favour of abusive guys. If he is abusive I can be too.

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u_can't_c_me @modern_sprou...

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Then fight with him, abuse him. U have every right except leaving him.

If you think you have other options . Remember, there are many fish in the sea. No one is gonna stay single. But the memories of the person kills.

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Yes I dont like breakups

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u_can't_c_me @modern_sprou...

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The morden girls lack commitment.
They won’t stay with the hope to fix the man.
with constant efforts you can make him your man.

Leave about the other options you have. Just focus on fixing the problem.
No person is perfect.

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Anonymous
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True and even some men don’t stay committed when I am ready to give my 100%

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Hope you feel better soon

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Behaviour Mitra apke sath usi sai apko pata chal jayega

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u_can't_c_me @modern_sprou...

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It’s ur mind that made u feel he is a red flag. I’m sure, u got someone to compare him with the other guy. And someone might have brainwashed u.

When women can stand with.her descisions that she made by herself, she can’t be a real woman.

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Anonymous
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False assumptions

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Red flag or abusive one i think u should find out quite easily if u care to observe small details i say simple behaviour tells you more like how that person treat inferior person or how that person behave when he have power or strong ground like most of people shows their behaviour when they have power i heard a quote about it in vikings that say Power is dangerous. It corrupts the best and attracts the worst so see that person behaviour when he have power

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u_can't_c_me @modern_sprou...

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Self love >>> love towards him… !?

It’s a bad thing dear.
Must be balanced.

U can add me to chat, if u feel like discussing the issues. Happy to help you.

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Anonymous
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He will disrespect you

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Anonymous
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Signs of red forest guy

: he will not make time for you
: he will manipulate you
: he will make you feel that you can’t get any other men and you are not valuable
:he will make you upset
: he will make you beg for his time
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: he will just hear but not listen to you
:he will never try to be understanding
Etc etc

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