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@this_sucks

I still hope that women dislike me because of my appearance and not because I’m nice; It’s so hard for me to deal with the fact that they don’t like guys who are nice to them, because that is who I am. It’s in my nature to be nice to people. If women dislike me because of my nature, I don’t even know what to say. I don’t think any woman will ever like me. The fact that I’ve stopped being nice to them ever since I got to know that won’t help, because I’ve just changed my attitude towards them and not who I am. They will still dislike me for being the ‘nice guy’.

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@this_sucks

No,all women are indeed the same in this matter. I saw a lot of videos on YouTube. Even I was surprised at first, but it’s the truth. Women dislike (and sometimes even hate) guys who are nice to them. And this applies to all women.

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@this_sucks

Don’t lie to me please. I may lack a personality, but I’m certainly not an idiot. I’m a very confident man and I would say that I know my worth, because I keep trying even though I keep getting rejected and still have some expectations . I am bad at communicating, but that’s because I have trouble understanding people and their emotions. I also don’t get a lot of interaction usually. I don’t see how any of that has anything to do with why women dislike me.

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@this_sucks

I have no reason not to believe that women like mean guys, though i would never judge them for it; I’m sure they have their own reasons, even if it boils down to just preferences.
And if women do dislike me because I have problems with understanding them, it means that they are overlooking the fact that I’m making a conscious effort to try and understand them, because it’s hard for me, unlike other people. It means that they dislike/hate me for being me. It’s literally the same thing as disliking me for my nature or disliking me for my looks, because it means that they are disliking me for who I am. I am a person who is diagnosed with extremely mild APSD, it’s who I am.

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@this_sucks

Of course, the last point everyone makes is age-old ‘right person for you’ argument. I don’t believe that there is a right person for me; doesn’t mean that I’ll stop trying.

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@this_sucks

Whatever. That person doesn’t exist.

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Sakshi B @sishan

Don’t worry… Not all women are same. But tell me bro why do you want to change yourself. Be who you are. Don’t keep mending yourself like woman do to change her face and then become ugly. Be natural. You are a beautiful soul. Always remember that.

@this_sucks

Don’t lie to me. All women are the same when it comes to disliking guys who are nice to them. It’s harsh, but it’s undeniably the truth. And no, I’m not going to change myself. I’m just changing my attitude towards them. I’ll still be a nice person; I’ll not show any niceness to women, however. Why? They literally dislike me. I think that I have the right to do so because of how my experiences with them have been.

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Anonymous

The reason for this is, usually women get approached a lot by men, so they become wary of anyone being nice also, it personally happened to me many times i was friendly with guys because they seemed nice but most of them proposed to me or wanted to date me when i wasnt interested in dating them, now if some new guy is being nice to me i immediately think maybe their is an ulterior motive, its because of our women to men population ratio, women get more propositions, so naturally they get wary and cautious…

@this_sucks

Yes, I understand you and I respect your wishes. Ill not judge you for being wary of nice guys. You have your reasons for it; I’m sure everyone women does.

@skygod

Hmm bhai hard toh hai nice rhna lekin no result but ek bahut acchi baat hai time n patience wo hai jo sabko heal kr deta aap jaise ho waise hee rho kyun change hona wo aapki identity hai bs time n patience rkho sahi hojyega not all women are same truth hai ye lekin hame nai pata kb tk bs wahi hai time n patience ka bs Sabr rkho sab sahi hoga…

@this_sucks

I don’t find it hard to be nice to people. I find it hard to NOT be nice to people. Because being nice is literally my nature.

@skygod

No problem brother you don’t have to show it jus u do it as how u are people will know when they come across the same patth

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