I need your opinion on this matter because I don’t know what to do.
Is it bad that I am getting annoyed with my best friend, I’ve been his friend for 5 years and in those 5 years he never treated me rudely?
It started with him simply calling me dumb, at first I didn’t mind it because sometimes that’s what friends tell each other you know, but he started mocking it and getting so close to my face while saying it, “omg you are so dumb, dumb, dumb, dumb”, because he has been saying it a lot more often I just don’t respond to him and look away. I had a mental breakdown when I was in math class for not being able to get the math problems and I remembered how he told me I was dumb and I kinda believed it at that moment. Then we were talking about the school food, he asked why I didn’t get a pepperoni pizza and I told him I was busy looking for the bigger piece which he called me a fat ass, I was not embarrassed but felt guilty because I already knew i was. I told him “call down flat ass” because I felt attacked by his comment, he just told me he rather looks like he does than look like me…pointing at my stomach. I told him to repeat what he said and he didn’t and changed the topic. There is this “cute” girl that he so calls and let me tell you he is gay so I jokingly said she might turn you straight, he said he didn’t like her but he’s never seen a girl as pretty as her, and he was comparing me to her, saying “yeah but you are ugly and she is prettier” which kinda hurt me. One time my friend told me to stop being a bitch and I got mad and told him to never call me a bitch, he just said then don’t act like one, I told him to not be so toxic than and thats how that went. We have a great time together besides those things, so I don’t know what to do. I really don’t care if I do lose him as a friend but I don’t know why I feel this way. When I see him on the morning bus I am super pissed because he is always in my personal space, but I don’t show it. When I am sad he checks up on me and is nicer to me, so that makes me super confused…I don’t know what to think anymore. I need your guy’s thoughts on this.
Maybe you guys need to take a break from each other.
Yeah I think I do, he cause me two metal breakdowns in one week
Friends are meant to annoy us, abuse us, make fun of us, thats how usually the nature of a friend is.
If you feel hurt then simple tell him
Are friends really supposed to body shame? Either way I will tell him to stop thank you
Generally friends body shame to just make fun of you, there’s not any bad intention behind this, although it has its own way to do it.
You are always free to tell your friends that you do not like these things and ask to them stop, politely. You also need to take such things casually, will not hurt you