I need your helpβ¦
So I recently went through a breakup, and I canβt stop thinking about him and I have SO MANY questions about our relationship and what led to the breakup. We did not end up bad, but I keep blaming myself for the separation. I know it wasnβt my fault, but my brain just wonβt stop. I talked to my therapist about it and she say why not just ask him, and get closure. I donβt know what I should do, in one hand I feel like he is not going to answer truthfully (since he usually avoided talking about how he felt), and/or the answers are only going to hurt more than help me. On the other hand, I feel like I could be in peace with myself knowing what really happened and maybe even become friends with him.
What do you think I should do?
Honestly just talk to him. He might be looking for some closure himself, and if he isnβt and even if he says something that hurts you at least youβd know and be able to move on. I donβt think heβd lie to you cause thereβs no reason to, especially if you guys didnβt end up bad. Besides not knowing will just suck and you will find yourself thinking about it unnecessarily
This happened to me many years back.
For me, I talked to my ex and he told me the truth. The truth was very painful to hear, and I hated hearing it at that time. But long term, it gave me closure. I no longer agonize over memories about him or crave to be with him again. I am at peace.