I need your help…
So I recently went through a breakup, and I can’t stop thinking about him and I have SO MANY questions about our relationship and what led to the breakup. We did not end up bad, but I keep blaming myself for the separation. I know it wasn’t my fault, but my brain just won’t stop. I talked to my therapist about it and she say why not just ask him, and get closure. I don’t know what I should do, in one hand I feel like he is not going to answer truthfully (since he usually avoided talking about how he felt), and/or the answers are only going to hurt more than help me. On the other hand, I feel like I could be in peace with myself knowing what really happened and maybe even become friends with him.
What do you think I should do?
Honestly just talk to him. He might be looking for some closure himself, and if he isn’t and even if he says something that hurts you at least you’d know and be able to move on. I don’t think he’d lie to you cause there’s no reason to, especially if you guys didn’t end up bad. Besides not knowing will just suck and you will find yourself thinking about it unnecessarily
This happened to me many years back.
For me, I talked to my ex and he told me the truth. The truth was very painful to hear, and I hated hearing it at that time. But long term, it gave me closure. I no longer agonize over memories about him or crave to be with him again. I am at peace.
