I need help in deciding if the boy who is currently in my life is worth the stress im dealing because his one action have a huge impact on my daily life and i couldn’t focus on anything
Ashish Sharma @thatsmeashi...
So tell me the story, let me try to help you out with this.
We were in college together then he moved to Australia we were just friends but during the pandemic we became close and he expressed first that he loves me i was really confused because i knew that i was attached to him but was not sure if that’s love plus this long distance thing wasn’t helping i said i was looking for a life long commitment and not some temporary fling. He distanced himself from me i could see the changed but i never asked the reason why he did that i assumed that he is not ready for commitment but after a few months he was back he said he misses his best friend and kets be friends again i was ok with that but being friends was difficult because he was not acting like a friend he wanted my whole attention he wanted to act like a lover but was nit ready to label it as a relationship . I played along and thought maybe after sometime he will want this as a real thing but he left again saying he is afraid he cannot commit this happened twice and i never argued or questioned him . 6 months earlier we ended things and decided we should part ways because love without commitment is not what i am looking for and he said he is not ready for commitment maybe he will never be ready so i cannot just wait there all my life hoping he will one day want this. I was sad depressed confused but i handled it and i was feeling finally okay but he returned last month saying he is not able to stay away he cannot label me as his girlfriend but he wants all the relationship stuff . This bothers me i never argued never questioned never demanded anything he left whenever he wanted and came back whenever he wished. I dont want to allow him in my life but i also cannot resist talking to him. What do i do? Remove him from my life without any debate or discussion? Or should i ask for a closure and make him understand what i feel? Help me
Ashish Sharma @thatsmeashi...
Honey i just faced this situation. And i am recovering from the same.
Me and her were is the same ofc and had really great bond.
Talking, video calls and everything whole day and night. And then i asked her for the life commitment because i am really not a hookup person.
Even i told about her at me home. And then she said, no i cant do this for lifetime, i am not ready for commitment. And i brokedown.
So i would suggest you to just close the things right away. No discussion, no debate, not making him understand anything.
Because if he wanted to understand anything he would have done that it in one go. Don’t mind me saying this but he is not interested in love or anything, he just wants to you know enjoy.
So instead of getting into toxic relation and spoiling your mood, life, career. let it go
I know its a little tuff. But you can do that.
Just try to focus on the things that are really needed and not on this and that.
Even if you get into relation with him you will suffer. May be not now, may be in future. And just because of this you might miss a real person who is in really into you.
You getting my point.
To let him go and search for a real person
Here’s a thing people who come and go, often go because they think they’ll have someone better than you but when they don’t find anyone they come back saying I can’t stay without you. Don’t be an option to anyone. Cause people treat you the way you allow them. I am saying this from experience, it’s just coming back and going till he finds someone else. Please take care of yourself and stay away from such people.
Hey girl you and me are in the same boat. I’m literally dealing with the same. We got this honey.
I hope these bothers end soon for both of us . i want to be loved i want to feel safe instead of being stressed.
Power to you my girl ❤️
