I miss him so much. I wish there was something I could do. It’s only been 5 days since the breakup. He was my first everything. We still love each other and it hurts to think he’s in pain too. We live 2 hours away from each other. We work all the time and could only see each other once a week, if that was even possible. He hates his job and it makes his mental health plummet. On top of that, He has a lot of unresolved trauma and mental health problems and I wish he would stop refusing therapy. I wish he’d go to therapy and work on himself and try to be the best partner for me because that’s what I did for him. I wish we could have the future we both wanted and that he’s move to my city like we’d talked about. Not because I wanted him to, but because he genuinely wanted to. My heart just breaks and I feel like he is the right person at the wrong time.
I understand breakups are very hard. But he should have the need to work on himself. He clearly faced a lot and maybe he needs more time to process all this. You on the other hand… could maybe just support him. Imagine a future where you will be with him with all his unresolved issues. That won’t be enjoyable at all. And that would lead to more problems. Work on yourself in the time being. Become resilient and think with a calm mind. Time may heal but that takes time too
Thank you, it really helped to hear this
Your welcome my friend.
To add to the post: we were together for 3 years
Hey there 💞 lots of power and support for u
This is a phase everyone goes through. I know it’s not pleasant but lemme tell you something which no one has ever told me when I went through a break up … it was hard for me but you need to put urself first… love urself first and work on urself and focus on urself… it will all be worth it💞
If someone truly cares bout the rs and the person they are with they will make efforts to move forward no matter how hard it is. If this relationship wasn’t serving u well then it’s not meant to be. You’re strong💞 everything’s gonn be okay 💜
Thank you💜. This really helps. I have been telling myself that someone who wants to be with me would put the effort in no matter what and I shouldn’t be the only one putting effort in.