 I mean she is a butch to me.
She always get angry. She thinks she is the boss. Now that i fought back. She is playing as if everything is my fault.
What should i do as a friend.
I dont hate her but i dont like her too.


I think you should tell her that you feel this way if possible or try to take a break from her I really think she doesn’t deserve you if she treats you that way you deserve a much better friend you deserve to be happy I hope the best for you 

Conflict

I heard on a recording that my best friend for four years is talking behind my back... she said I'm a fool so many times... Should I stop being her friend? or I'm just imagining things?

Exhausted

Sooo I have this so called best friend of mine, we've known each other for 5years now and we became really close 4 years ago. 
So thing was that she was part of a popular group which was very toxic and I was her non toxic private friend. We always hung out a lot but no one really knew that we were bffs. I was okay with it back then, I was understanding. 
However now, we're both in the same college and things look like they're the same but it's changed. She treats me like a bff when we're in private. But in front of everyone someone else (my other friend is her bff) no one really knows how close we are/how we used to be. Worst is that now she only contacts me when she needs help with studies. Everyone knows how the bond with your bff is like. She never treats me like a bff but still calls me one. She never shares her feelings, thoughts secrets. I always find out abt it through a 3rd person. Hell she didn't even tell me she got a tattoo which is like a pretty big thing here. I hate it, what is it that I don't have to become her bff. I don't expect much from her, I don't expect us to hang out all the time. But just casual convos?sharing your feelings? Is it too much to ask for? 

Insecurity

how do I tell my friend to chew with her mouth closed? she has been my friend for 3 weeks but I'm close to snapping and screaming her to shut the f up and eat like a human but she's 7 years older than me and I don't want to made her sad or annoyed lol

Friends

My best friend and I have been friends for, let's say 5 years but we no longer attend the same school. And when we talk it's natural and it feels like nothing has changed. But it has she's growing as a person and so am I and there's no issue with that. But my problem is, the last time I talked to her I told her that I felt lonely and had nobody to talk to. And she told me that she was having diner and she'll be done in about 30 minutes and then we'll talk.So, I waited and waited and waited and finally she didn't message so I went to sleep. And the icing on the cake was the fact that she was online and was posting status' like she usually does. 
What hurts the other is that I always make her a priority and wherever she's hurting or just needs someone I'm always there and I make sure of that, but I don't feel as if she's there for me, you know?
And we're even over opposites she's an extrovert and I prefer to keep to myself. She has billions of friends and I only have a few that call my true friends. 
I honestly do not know what to think, but it did hurt and sometimes I feel like I'm dragging her down and she's only friends with me for the sake of it.
What should I do?


Lonely

Hello, I really need help with my best friend. First of all I'm an introvert with a very bad social life. I spent most of my life alone with no friends. I donvt have cousins and I didn't have any friends in my whole middle school years . as a result I have a poor social skills now, and a not so well social life. My friend is an extrovert unlike me, she still doesn't fit in but she manage to get to know some people and be friend with them.We've been friends for more than 4 years. We don't go out together that much bcz since we graduated high school 2 years ago, each of us was accepted in a different university and I had to move to another city bcz of collage. But we still talked to eachother in a daily basis. The thing is after I finished my finals. And with this  quarantine, I really didn't have much to talk about with her, so couple days or 4 days would pass with out talking to each other. She was mad at me several times bcz I don't text her and that she feels like i don't care about her anymore, but the truth is she's my best and only friend. she means alot to me, she helped me to break alot of my social barriers, she stood with me while I was going through some serious family issues. The reason i doent text her alot like I used to, is bcz during quarentine I  have been feeling very negatively about myself, to the point that I literally don't wanna talk to anyone, even my family. I keep isolating my self for a reasen I don't know, and when I looked it up at google, it said that  it's bcz ur feeling unworthy and having a low self-esteem, which is something I could relate to, I've always had the feeling of I could be replaced, specially that she got new friends at her college, started taking picture with them and play games with them. People who are alot easier to be with, not awkward, makes jokes, comfortable and doesn't have barriers, absoloutly unlike me. I guess thats why I unintentionally started isolating myself from everyone including her. I wish she shouldn't take things personally, she told me previously that she got trust issues and always afraid that people will leave her. And i always tell her I wont leave her bcz she is the closest friend I ever had. But thats my way of dealing with my feelings, ISOLATION. but she keep thinking that I would leave her. Last time she got mad at me she told me to constently talk to her or she'll think I dont care about her anymore. She called me 3 days ago, I didn't answer. I texed her yesterday apolagising to her but she didn't text me back. Our friendship is falling apart bcz I don't know how to deal with neither my feelings nor people. I know I made a huge mistake by not calling her back, and I don't know how fix things up thats why am asking for help in here..

If anyone can drop in and tell me your thoughts or any advice would be great! Im currently conflicted because at the moment I might be going through social anxiety but im not fully sure because im not diagnosed. I have trouble allowing people into my lives because it can be very scary for me. I have this girl friend that is sweet and understanding and we talked like every other day but every time we got off the phone with each other or after hanging out I would over think to the point that it would put me in a bad mood and it would make me want to distance myself from her. I recently texted her telling her that I’ll be taking a break from talking to her because I need some time to heal. I’m also going through some depression and I was tired of faking like I’m okay towards her. Now I feel bad and I feel like our friendship won’t recover because I’m trying to push myself away from her so that I don’t get these uncomfortable feelings every time I hang out with her or talk to her. A part of me wants a friend because a friendship can be a beautiful thing and a part of me is too scared to have one because it can be a risk of something going wrong and me or her getting hurt and also I’m not sure if I always want to be uncomfortable around her or talking to her. Me being the person I am, someone who doesn’t trust anyone or can’t open up much to someone because most of what I do is based on fear. I’m so conflicted. 

You know what, loosing a best friend is very painful than loosing a lover... My best friend is leaving me for no reason... It's really hard but I need to move on... I don't know what to do 

I am in my early 40s (male), I left home when I was 15 and I have been on my own since. about 16 years I met my best friend Kim (woman). I love her to bits and I consider her my family. She has been with me through hard times and I too have stood with her through trying times. 

She is lesbian and that allowed to trust that we were meant to be friends and nothing else and we have both always respected that boundary.  Two years ago we both realised that we actually loved each other more than we thought and we slept together. This happened a couple of times until I stopped it.  She asked me not to contact her because she could not deal with the emotions involved. 

I have been suffering for two years, I miss her so much. I miss my friend and family.  I don't know if I should contact her and try to repair our friendship. I understand how hurt she must have been by my actions. 

This affects my days, my work. I am losing self-esteem and i feel useless most of the times. I am not looking for sympathy or sex. I just want my friend back so much. She means a lot to me. I don't know what to do.


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