Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

I live in a typical brown middle class family and I am the only daughter of my parents. I am so much hated because I’m a girl by my entire family I’ve always been a good daughter, good at my grades in school. I am doing MBBS right now which means I’ll become a doctor in a few years. But I am still underestimated by my family just because I’m a woman. I’m a feminist I want equality and it kills me when I see so much patriarchy in my own family. My dad earns my mom earns too but whenever she has to do something she wants she has to take his permission. He cannot get up to take a glass of water himself and he thinks its our duty to do so, it does not matter whether I’m studying or doing something important I have to get up and bring him that glass of water or make him tea. Yesterday there was some problem in the kitchen and it got late to make his tea he yelled and shouted at me and my mom that I can’t even have my Tea on time. Today he says to me that all this is happening because he has given us too much freedom and says shoes are supposed to be kept on its place. I felt so bad it broke my heart. I have no respect left for him. I just talk to him because I’m financially dependent on him and I have to make a career. All these years have not been easy for me when I’m trying so hard to become a doctor, I’m in my 3rd year now and this is the kind of support I get from my own family where I’m told that I’m a piece of shit and I feel so bad that I cannot do anything about it except of just sitting and crying