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Anonymous

I have this habit of looking out for people to talk. But when it comes to dating/such things like that I make them brother zoned or friend zoned bcz I feel they will do the same. Ofcourse they are all from online sites. Socially I am introvert. So what should I do? I have tried several apps to talk with people. But is it wrong for me? I am so confused

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Anonymous

but why do I feel confused whether I want to date them or keep them as friends. Nobody approaches me first. And even if they do, it is in cringe way only. I don’t feel safe. So I don’t share pictures of me or even give them something to stab me later on

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Just found the root cause of this because sometimes we seek attention when we get it then it changes nothing so usually people shift on other thing or another person so find it why u do this

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Anonymous

I get attention but not because of me as a person but because I am a girl. That doesn’t make me feel good. I don’t like it when people are not looking at me because of how I am rather, my gender. I know what they are looking for from me. That disgusts me. So I stay afraid and confused

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@mavericks_

Then you r quite smart to know what they want which is mostly true so i think u r looking for genuine connections which is difficult to find obviously due to many reasons

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Anonymous

yes and when they talk genuinely, I friend zone or brother zone them thinking they would do the same 🥲

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That is something but i think your doubts r okay too because trusting someone is difficult specially on social platforms so take things slow and see if someone willing to wait

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Anonymous

exactly. And I remain so confused so I seek attention from others to make me feel good. what is this weird feeling I have? Am I sick I sometimes wonder

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Its fine we do many things to fill the void and attention seeking same thing but problem lies due to constant urge for this thing and as u said you remain confuse so i think you should sort of your confusion first other things will be okay

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Anonymous

yes I’m trying to do that. Finding out what I have and what I’m looking for

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You just need clarity and it will helps u and then it makes things simple and easy to understand

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Anonymous

hmm. Thanks for listening 💖

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All ears for you 👍👍 and hope it will helps you

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Anonymous

You can always set your boundaries and be friends with the opposite gender. I know sometimes it’s difficult to find a guy who only wants to be friends with you. But trust me there are people who love to have a genuine connection without romanticizing everything.

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Anonymous

that’s true. And even when we talk about that topic, I feel I don’t want them as lover but still am jealous of anyone else interacting with them. But I can’t tell that to them because I know both of us have nothing like that for each other. I can’t even express my jealousy and it feels so bad and frustrating. When I see them flirting with someone, it just furies me up but still I don’t want them to flirt with me. What am I even doing 😭

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Anonymous

Hey, don’t be harsh on yourself. It happens jealousy is common in normal friendship also. Keep focusing on yourself. Time ke saath sab thik ho jayega

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Anonymous

Im exactly like you…we can talk about it 😅

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Anonymous

yeah maybe🥲

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Sure 😃 let’s connect

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