I have this friend who I’ve been fighting with a lot lately. he keeps yelling at me for absolute bullshit reasons whenever something else is bothering him or he’s upset about other stuff. I guess he might have a lot going on right now but he doesn’t want to share that with me either, which is okay but the yelling always breaks me apart. whenever its convenient for him he stops fighting and refuses to talk about how any of it made me feel. on top of this he just never wants to meet me or hangout with me or spend time with me, and it has been this way for a very long time now. Sometimes I wonder why he’s even friends with me after all this while. I do love him to death though which is why its so hard to even detach from him and cut him off. what should I do?
Harpreet Jhajj @hjhajj13
you dont have to detach from your friend, but you should take a step back and re-evaluate. sometimes you have to put yourself first. maybe your friend needs some space? he will come and talk to you whenever he is ready. but you need to respect yourself as well
Harpreet Jhajj @hjhajj13
would you like to connect? and talk about it,
yeah you’re right, we just need sometime away from each other. i can’t force him to be my friend, i hope it’ll just sort itself out with time
yes sure! you’re so sweet😭
Harpreet Jhajj @hjhajj13
im new with this app, could you help me with connecting with you?
omg same, it’s not letting me connect right now either
i joined a couple of hours ago only😭
Harpreet Jhajj @hjhajj13
i wonder if its because your anonymous
it’s possible but i don’t think so, the app says you’ve to interact for a while before you can start connecting
Harpreet Jhajj @hjhajj13
oh okay, thats a little frustrating lol i mean what if you dont want to say something to everyone?
exactly it doesn’t make sense only😭 you’ll be the first one i connect with once the app unlocks that feature for me! you’re too sweettt
Harpreet Jhajj @hjhajj13
try sending message without making yourself anonymous, if you dont mind
AGirlHasNoName @agirlhasno...
Boundaries are really important in any aspect of life. You need to draw that thin line between you and him. Yes be there for him when he wants to vent but no don’t let him disrespect you at any cost. You are your own person too and let him accept the fact that you can’t be there 24x7 for anyone.
that’s the whole problem, he doesn’t let me be there for him which is okay but he uses me as his punching bag and says mean and inconsiderate things without any context, it’s just not okay
AGirlHasNoName @agirlhasno...
Yes, it’s not and that is where boundaries come in. You tell him straightforward that I am not okay with you being so inconsiderate and rude towards me like this and I don’t think I deserve it in any way. I am my own person and I can’t have you disrespecting me like that. If he can understand this well and good, or you’d have to let him just be dont respond.
