I have family and friends
But still I fell like an orphan ( worst than that maybe)
Why do you feel so? Any actions or inactions by them?
Like no one cares about me . And always been left alone and lonely. Like i have always helped other but for once can someone love me and take care of me .
Did you asked for help?
Yaa many times . Have trusted people and told them to lsn to me but what happens they give me guilt and leave me . Like i am so tired
Heyy I’m so sorry you are in that position. It’s not right no one must go thru such isolation. Idk what to tell you. But I hope you find people who will love you and support you without you even asking but till then I wud suggest to keep hanging on become your own strength ur own pillar. See this as an opportunity to become strong and independent.
Yaa . There are problems are problems and i am tired like hell .like i feel people just use me . And when i need help there is no one .
Well I’d like to suggest you something idk if it’s right but just from my experience. Stop draining yourself, stop helping them if it is draining you. Start helping yourself. Investing in yourself. Invest in a hobby a skill the more time you give yourself the less time there is for others. Ik I’m telling you to be selfish but my only explanation to that is “you cannot pour from an empty cup” and give the same explanation when ur closed ones raise their eyebrows when you say no to them. Cz if you don’t stand up for yourself, no one will. Let them know you cannot be treated that way. People like us don’t have self respect and then we become a doormat, people walk on all over us and then later we cry. So just get up and leave.
Yaa i will do that . But then i will not have anyone. Like no best friend, no friend, no sister ,no cousin . I will be all alone . Even my own family . If it was about leaving just one person it would be easy may be . But it’s like from childhood whatever I had losing everyone at once . It’s hurts a lotttt
Do you have them now?
Nooo but ek think hota hai . Ki atleast when they will need me that time toh kisi Sai baat ho gi .
Like now a days i hardly speak to anyone. I would barely say 10 sentence in whole day
What about ur needs? They are not there for you right? Isn’t it better to be alone rather than being in wrong company and ik it’s not easy and I also stayed thinking kuch nhi se achha yahi sahi but eventually u have to take that decision inevitably it comes down to that cz in no time this thing will start taking toll on your mental health and you will start losing yourself. I’m not saying cut them off, but set boundaries. Don’t cross oceans for people who aren’t jumping puddles for you. And let them know politely they will understand. They’re not bad it’s just habit lag jaati h logo ko and it’s up to us, we get to set the standards of how people shud treat us, unfortunately some of us don’t do it properly so we get used but people don’t think they’re doing wrong cz that’s how it’s been and they see ur not revolting or standing up so it indirectly gives the message that u are fine with such behaviour but u are not right. So u need to let them know. And getting used to this change won’t be easy they will not take it easy, but changes never comes easy but it’s necessary right
Yaa i understand what u are saying. And my mental health is very baddd . Like extremely baddd
That’s what I’m saying so uk take care of yourself before you fall apart cz at the end when u fall apart yahi krna padega tumko abhi krlo usse achha.
But i did not do anything wrong to anyone. Even now after knowing all they do is use me . I still don’t have anything bad for them . Then why was I treated like this ? Am I soo badd
That’s what I am saying, How people treat you has nothing to do with how good or bad you are, they treat you according to the standards you have set and then the patterns repeat and then it becomes normal for them and you feel people are treating you poorly they are doing that cz u didn’t stand up for yourself when they did so they thought he’s fine with it, so they keep doing it. You have to start to let them know that u are not fine with the way u are being treated. It’s affecting you and you have got drained so u won’t be able to help them as before cz u cannot pour from an empty cup.
Yaaa . Thank you so much
You’re welcome
But how should I start
Umm, small steps I guess. Depends on ur situation. In everyday life, making yourself a priority. Saying no. If there’s anyone who understands telling them or the one that always works is explaining people by keeping them in ur position, like how wud u feel when u are being there for everybody but no one has got ur back? Or This is really important for me I need to have this me time for myself so I don’t lose my sanity or I know u need my help rn but I’m struggling with something myself so I’m not in the right position to help you out.
It’s okay. If u wanna share your problems u can too. I don’t know whether I will be able to help you or not but maybe it will make ur heart feel good
Ur the post owner? I didn’t get you?
Yaa i am the post owner .
I mean u can share it problem too
Umm thanks for asking, hope my solutions helped you. I was the same. Never stood for myself, people never treated me at par but I always understood them I am a very considerate human so i made excused for them understood where they’re coming from. And somehow subconsciously I was teaching myself that I’m not important my things are not important. Self care is being selfish. And loving unconditionally is what I shud do even if it means betraying myself, the boundaries get blur and you start losing yourself. And then u really don’t know what you like and who u are anymore. You become the side character of ur own life. And it really sucks and what follows after that Is a black hole. Not a good place to be trust me. It’s taking me forever to get out of it to heal myself.
Thank you so much for your kind word . And it will definitely help me . And i pray that you get an answer to your problems. And stay save and happy.
Thank you so much 🥰 you too take care of yourself and stay happy always
