I have been with my significant other for three years. We have a baby together. He is not romantic or intimate at all. We have sex maybe 4-6 times a year. I won’t initiate anything with him because when I’m playful I get shut down. I literally made a tinder just so someone would pay attention to me. I feel self-centered even saying that but I need affection and love and sex. I don’t know what to do. I have mentioned it to him before during arguments and even told him it’s okay if he just wants to be friends but nothing gets through.
you guys live in the same house and have sex 6 times a year? wow. well have you tried trying to make him feel jealous to see if he is still sexually attracted to you?
Well I joke about like going out to meet dudes or like making a tinder or whatever and he laughs like I can’t. Trust me, I’ve tried everything. I told him straight up that’s it’s okay to wanna break up and be with other people and he says no he loves me. Like okay…
What does he say when you tell him it’s bothering you? Does he react in any manner, does anything bother him or is he preoccupied with some other stress? Or does he not feel the same way about the relationship anymore? Do you guys still talk? Does he pay attention to your day etc.? Asking these questions for reference, not to be nosey or anything, if you haven’t already asked him these, you could. And if you have, then let me know how he’s been reacting…
He told me it’s hard for him to be intimate and that he hates sex. I didn’t get any other details. I don’t understand how you could hate sex. I’m assuming he’s insecure. I can see if he’s stressed and maybe it’s decreasing his libido, but he’s been like this even before we were actually dating. We watch shows together and sometimes we hang out and joke and whatever but it’s not often. He literally plays video games all day. I told him it’s okay if he doesn’t love me and we can date other people but he doesn’t want to. I don’t know what to do.
you should try to talk to someone and have conversations with them. this might help you. it is normal to have sex outside marriage if the better half is not interested because sex is a biological need and we should make it normal
