I have been feeling so hollow for the last few weeks. I tried to talk to my gf about how I was feeling and maybe I was expecting some kind words from her. But she took it as a complain and started behaving so rude. I tried to pacify her but she remained silent, refused to talk responsibly and kept making abusive comments. I explained everything to her, yet all she kept saying was how I limit her and I am an insecure person. We have been together for 4 years. And I love her a lot, even more than myself. Still she never gave me the same love back and whenever I tried to have some real talk with her, she would instantly turn off. It hurts a lot to see that the person you love, does not love you back. I love her a lot but I am not happy with her behavior. She is too harsh when it comes down to real communication.
It’s ready sad to know this. It actually hurts to see the person you love has stopped loving you the same way.
If the vibe you got earlier is not same as the vibe you are getting now with her. I think it’s time to help yourself get out of this relation.
I hope you won’t be angry bit have you thought about cooling it off for a while? I’m a firm believer in talking. But if that doesn’t work and instead made you and her drift farther apart, maybe it’s time to let go for a while. Yes it could go both ways. It could be beneficial for your relationship and make the both of you feel that you make each other complete. Or it could be a catalyst to make both of you see that you both need to grow apart to grow up. But that is life right? People come into our life to teach us something. Staying is just a bonus.
Thank you for your advice and I will take it. I went to her home and tried to talk to her. She asked me to leave as she did not have enough sleep. left without fighting. She hasn’t picked up any of my phone calls or answered my texts. So, I just waiting to hear from her again. I am too lonely and too afraid to lose her as I love her so much and she means a lot to me even when she does not love me back.
you keep saying she doesnt love you. how do you know tho? did she say it out loud? if not, well my guess is she does love you if she doesnt, she’d be the one breaking it up/cooling it off in the first place. something’s up with her that’s for sure i dunno for example like a problem she’s ashamed for you to know? i just dont buy it that she doesnt love you