I have a very close friend who often tends to demean people or hides himself behind sarcasm. He sees it as a joke but it often hurts people and I really wish there was some nice way I could convey to him that it’s not fine to demean others and that it isn’t in good taste. He does this to me too and I’ve told him a couple of times that he makes me feel not smart or that his jokes are not nice. How can I handle such situations carefully so that I don’t hurt him but still convey that what he does is hurtful to me
See, people who do that are actually insecure themselves. So as you say you are a close friend, maybe you can ask him to reflect on why he behaves the way he does coz its not a nice trait to throw sarcasm regularly you know. In a subtle calm manner without hurting his male ego.
“Without hurting his ego” would suffice ,Ravenna
Ask him if he doesn’t want you to be his friend, because even though you want to be his friend, he makes you feel like you’re not important at all. Just be direct, guys can’t take clues. Just let him know you’ll work with him if he wants to change up his act.
Just know, friends are not supposed to make you feel shitty…
Bro sometimes people just need to hear the brutal truth, no filter. I think this guy needs it. Even if he feels shitty, he is no one to make other’s feel the same too
