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I have a frnd who is 22yrs old. She is facing many family problems from childhood. She has 4brothers cum devils. One of her brother has drinking issue he Brutally hits her and also her parents. He also try to molest her… But her parents do nothing. She is preparing for government jobs and do not want to marry but her parents and relatives pressurized her to marry than all things will good. She is very depressed and tried to attempt one or more times to suicide. What should she do

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k9nzaki

this is a really tough situation to be in. to start off she should get away from her current household if her siblings are trying to do dangerous actions towards her. next is having to marry. if that is apart of the family tradition i’m sorry i’m not exactly sure what to do. she could run away ( sounds very childish but as in start a new life someplace else ) but the only problem is that she would be shamed by her family ? making her family look bad? then again she does have a job she’s working to so she probably can’t run away. about one of the brothers it’s not his fault he caught an addiction and it’s a very damaging addiction to have so instead of throwing him under the bus he should get medical help. sorry if i didn’t really help much x

therealone

As a 22 years old, life might still feel confusing outside one’s household. But there’s no reason to stay in a toxic environment that can ruin one’s mental and emotional essence.

If it was one of my friends, I would just advise them to get out of there, crash at a friend’s place for a few weeks while getting a job (online or offline - something just enough to pay the bills), not letting anybody know where they’re at, and start a new life. Away from the old toxic environment she’s in right now.

There’s no reason to live a miserable life caused by others’ actions or desires. I moved away from home when I was 18 from a East European country to the other side of the continent. She doesn’t have to change countries, but a fresh life in a fresh city can help put her in a better headspace. A fresh start is scary, and comes with many challenges, but it’s often the only way.

Family stuff is tricky, and I imagine she can’t just retaliate out of fear for her life. Just try to offer her as much support as she needs, and encourage her to figure out a way out of there.