I have a friend who is really kind and we are kind of best friends, we share a lot of things, we spent a lot of time together, and we help eachother a lot… This year, is the first year we study together, and we’re in the same class with someone who used to be his “enemy” who I didn’t hear anything about him before. I didn’t know about this, so I didn’t think it would cause any problem when I became very close to him. Now I see him as a very close friend because he is a very appreciative and supportive friend. Lately I was noticing this enmity between them, and I started to feel curious about it. Briefly, I knew a lot about the problems between them, I also knew how they were good friends before, but it seems like there’s no way for them to return to their beautiful relationship. Now I find my old friend losing trust in me and suspecting me since I’m a bit close to his “enemy”, he isn’t blaming me and gives me all the right to do whatever I want with whoever I like, but he just doesn’t feel at ease with me as he usually did… In the other hand, my other friend is being confused and sometimes having bad times because of me making him think that I am being nice with him in ordrer to reveal his secrets to my bestfriend…
I am really not fine with this situation, I feel the pain and I need help 😔 I can’t handle being suspected all the time even when I try to prove that I’m totally innocent… I know friendship isn’t like this but I sometimes think they’re both right…💔 It’s really complicated…
What do you think I should do?
Youre in a tough spot. I would simply say dont try to be a mediator between them and spent time as you like, because no matter what happens they will still believe you to be partial. Let them solve the issue on their own
That’s what I’m currently doing, I tryed once to help solve things between them and it didn’t work, but the problem here is that they’re almost making me choose between them and I can’t do it…
It was expected. I would simply say you tell them both you arent gonna choose between them . Reinforce that they both are friends and they both mean something to you. And then let them decide what they wanna do
They actually didn’t say that I have to choose, but that’s what I feel they’re facing me to. Thank you anyway😊
