I have a friend of mine who helped me a lot in achieving my educational goals. As I didnโt have many friends, I got attached him so much. I trusted him and even started loving him. I didnโt express my love initially but thought that he will understand it by my actions. I prioritized him more than myself. I was there for him whenever he needs. I even gave him physical warmth to make him feel better. It went well for few months. All of a sudden, he told that the relationship seems to be toxic. He started to avoid me. I used to apologize for mistakes I didnโt do. I literally gave up my self respect in the process of staying in touch with him. At one point of time, I expressed my love for him. He told that he didnโt have such feelings. As itโs individual wish, I respected his feelings. I donโt want to affect our 4 year long friendship. I just asked him to be my friend. I didnโt cross my limits later but he continuously avoided me. He made me wait at least for 3 days to get a reply for my normal messages. It drove me mad. I fought a lot about this. I asked only his friendship. But he still avoids me like anything.
I find it difficult to stay away from people who I love the most. Thatโs why I keep going to them even after they treat me badly. Iโm a person who believes that there should be someone who should compromise in a relationship and adjust to hold on. But now I feel that I have completely lost my self respect in this process. Iโm becoming unstable and losing my temper easily. It hinders my relationship with my parents and other family members. It also acts as a barrier to achieve my career goals.
I feel that holding on to him will eventually spoil my life. At the same time, I canโt stay away from him. Iโm not able to make a decision. I badly want to focus my energy on positive direction to achieve in my career and life.
I donโt have anyone to share this with. So vented out in this platform hoping that there will be someone listening to me as well.
Jack @jackschaner
Listening to every wordโฆ
I too have problems with staying next to people I shouldnt. One of my friends has done numerous things to hurt me and I still try and be nice to him. And I dont want to.
I know its incredibly painful to even think about saying that someone isnt interested in being friends, but you may have to accept it. To me it sounds like he has no interest or care about being friends with you, and im sorry about that, but it may be for the better. It would benefit you more to let him go than stretching yourself out over him.
Good luck.
Dhadkan @angel14
Hey dear !!!
Damn thatโs meโฆu r a replika โฆjust happened with meโฆ๐
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Idk how butโฆthis time I got more of self confidence .
Listenโฆwe r humans we do get attached to ppl ๐
But at the same timeโฆ donโt forget that u should be the one in control of your emotions ๐
After all u r the hero of your life dear โฆ
U have come up in this world with a priceโฆ donโt waste godโ's efforts โฆ
Also I ll tell u a trick to unlove anyone u want to ๐
U see we love the person cuz of his personality , nature , or lonliness โฆ right ?
Now think about it โฆu can take up all that u loved the person forโฆn add it in ur personality โค๏ธ
The lonliness โฆit doesnโt last forever โฆ
Once you become what you loved the person for โฆu no longer find them superiorโฆ
The better n stronger u become the better men u ll attract ๐๐๐
Improve yourselfโฆu r importantโฆ๐๐ค๐ค
N compromise is to be done where itโs respected โฆ
Be that boss lady n show the world who u r PRINCESS ๐๐๐
Good luck ๐๐๐ ๐๐
Need a healthy conversation with you dear!!
we want what we cant have, it can be very awkward having someone who feels more for you than you do for them. he probably wants you to move forward in his absence, just like you wanting to hint to him that you loved him he probably wants to step back so he doesnโt hurt you, him avoiding and distancing himself is probably his hint to you that you gotta find someone that wants you too. being a hindrance to someones love life sounds pretty bad to me and iโm sure it sounds equally bad to him. People come and go, donโt be afraid of losing him, just make sure to remember him and the good times yโall had.
Absolutelyโฆ Iโm here to listen u !!
