I have a bf ..we are in long distance...our parents found out about this ...they told us not to get into commitments amd focus on our career....I can't betray my parents at the same time my heart doesn't want to loose him ..wt to do??
My parents are like wait for 3 years even then if u like him then proceed and till then remain friends..idk wt to do 
Please help

It is not like joke dear. See ur life is valuable for everyone and if they are asking you to wait then there must be a strong reason so u should have to wait and in the meantime ask him to wait also. Pyar hai to itna to kr hi sakta hai

Well  your parents are right . Focus on your career firstly . U know people changes like seasons now a days . They never told u to leave him . U ppl make sure after 3 years . Everything is for good reason 😌  u can still know him better . So u can take this as positive know 🙂  Everything goes well . Career is very important to the every  individual . We can't buy time back . So focus on your self your parents are saying for your better future only know . If u work hard now then u can live happily then . Focus on bright side think big . Everything seems positive 

I think they have a point.
First focus on your studies ,get a job , be independent
Then like your parents said go with your relationship

Shivany 

Boyfriend

Should I delete his number? 

Relationships

I dont knw what im going through im in a relationship for past 2 years after finishing 3 months i understood that he is having a controlling behaviour and i thought it was caring and days passing only i started to notice his changes i cant chat with my friends and even i can’t go out with them . If i do anything like this he will tell me you dont value me . I thought it was out of love . He started making me possessive and jealous which was not in my dicto he injected it over me. And he started to mentally and emotionally abuse me and i went through severe depression and i have went through this all things and even i cant think about leaving him . Now He says he dont want me he have a new girlfriend but first I couldn’t digest it and when I started realising its the truth and started to move on. he saying why are you doing like this thats why im behaving like this i cant understand him . He made me stop my bachelors through emotionally abusing and now i again restarted my education and im trying to build my own world. Now he came again and he is flattering me and then he will say i dont love you i dont want you . I will not marry you.  he started to mess again I dont knw what to do?? He just controlling me . Im a emotional type he is using it I wanna get out of it

June 1, 2022

So there’s this guy... We met more than a month ago. We were getting along and were enjoying each other’s company. Until one day, he admitted that he likes me and wants to pursue me, and being someone who likes to say, "Why not?" for the chance of experience, I agreed. Things escalated like that, with him being sweet, understanding, patient, (can I say that he’s smart?) and with every green flag available, he raised and waved. I also opened up to him about my oath to myself of not getting into a relationship until I became independent and stable. He’s all for it. He’s willing to wait. And so he asked me if I could trust him and wait with him. I said yes, but was already perplexed internally. Slowly, I got this feeling of pressure. The dilemma starts here. It’s just that it feels... surreal and quick? I mean, he always puts forth the effort to let me know where I stand, and I do appreciate it. I really do. I do like him too. That was why I agreed when he asked me out in the first place. However, eventually, I feel that I can’t reciprocate the same strong feelings as he does. It worries me and it makes me feel guilty, since I know that somehow, I am responsible for what he feels. Also, I was open about this with him and we even discussed it again last night, but you know what, every time? He’d reassure me that he understands and he’s not pressuring me, and that no matter how much of a mess I am, he will help me untangle it. However, I still feel confused, unprepared, and guilty. What to do?


Conflict

Edit: I think I'm getting attracted towards X again...

I met someone online, really liked his company. After 2 months of constant talking, he just stopped talking to me. Let’s call him X.
I felt very lost and hopeless for 2-3 months after that. Then he calls me & wants to become friends again. Meanwhile, I became really close to someone else who filled in the gap. Let’s call him Y.
And I met Y first and we became really close. In fact, we’re very comfortable around each other. He helped me get through some of the toughest moments of my life including borderline depression. Recently, he confessed to me & I like him a little too. v platonic again.
Soon after, X was in town & we met too. Totally platonic excepting holding hands (although he said he wanted something more). But I was so angry at him because he’d ghosted me & he gave me an explanation after 8 months. I wanted to meet him to tell him that I don’t want to engage in his company. Instead, he said he likes me & wants to take this ahead. Of course, all my feelings came back and I couldn’t hold back. I feel like I want to forgive him but his mood swings are erratic. I have 10 days left in the city & I don’t know who to choose & how to get over X.
I told X that it’s too late now & I’ve met someone else. but the ‘if’ always remains. What if he hadnt left.
I know I’ll regret being with him but he stood me up. And it’s been a bad phase. And I cant think of anything else but how to get over it. And Y has been such a good friend. Although I dont feel so strongly for him but I do love his company.
Am I cheating on any of them???

it’s been awhile since i’ve posted on here. but i’ve been working on myself and working on moving on. it was going really well and i even started talking to this new guy. i was doing better than i was before. i can’t say that i was 100% okay and happy but definitely more happy than before. anyway, like always things started getting bad again. i was talking to this new guy and we were doing great he came over a lot and he made me happy. but then he started lying to me about things he promised he would never lie about. he started talking to his ex again and i didn’t care bc me and him weren’t actually dating. and he told me that they were just friends even though he talked bad about her to me and said he didn’t like her for what she did to him. i thought that that was kind of weird considering i thought he hated her. eventually i found out that he was texting her behind my back and talking bad about me and saying all these things that weren’t true. he let her talk bad about me because she doesn’t like me and he was agreeing with everything she was saying. i found out from another friend and i confronted him about it. he sent me screenshots of their texts and i saw everything. i was obviously very upset with him because of this. and i guess we weren’t really on speaking terms for a little. then i just tried to forget it and so i forgave him (stupid decision of me) we were talking and hanging out again. things were different but i still wanted things to work out with him. a month or two go by and i find out that he’s flirting with other girls behind my back while he’s telling me he wants to be with me. i confronted him about it again because he’s done it before. we were not on speaking terms because i just felt so upset and confused. then comes new years and i found out that he was hanging out with his ex all night and they got drunk together till like 7 in the morning. he didn’t even care how i felt and never talked to me about it. once again he lied and went behind my back. i realized that he had been manipulating and manipulating me and i didn’t want to me manipulated anymore. so i just stopped talking to him and he knew i was upset but didn’t say anything to me about it. he bragged to his friends that me and him stopped talking because he was messing around with other girls. which idk why that would be something to brag about. a month i think, goes by and we are not on speaking terms. he didn’t try and reach out to me at all but i was still so hurt because he didn’t seem to care about how i felt. then i get a text from him and he says that he’s sorry and like before, i tell him that i don’t care if he’s sorry because he still did what he did. he begs and begs for me to let him come over and apologize but i still deny. then i just give up because he keeps begging and begging for me to forgive him. i don’t forgive him but i just “forgot” about it. we are on speaking terms again and mostly as just friends even though he keeps trying to win me back. he was being really sweet to mr so i thought that he actually meant it and i was stupid for believing all the things he said. now this week i found out that he was begging to have sex with some other girl that has a boyfriend. keep in mind i just had him over a couple days before. we cuddled and did all the normal stuff. we laid in bed and talked for hours and he explained everything. but he still decided to go and do what he did. so again, i confronted him about it and he acted like i was overreacting he said and i quote “just because i said i wanna have sex with her doesn’t mean i am” and i was honestly so mad and confused at what he just said to me. he acted like it wasn’t a big deal but it i was going out begging some guy to have sex he would get so mad at me. everything i was saying to him went in one ear and out the other. he didn’t care about what i said at all. his responds were just “okay” and “alright” after i told him that i would have never done that to him and that it just didn’t make sense. and now we’re here i am just honestly not surprised anymore. i wouldn’t say i am upset about it but more mad. i kind of expected something like this happen but i was just so stupid to get manipulated again. i honestly just don’t really care what happens anymore im just fed up with being put through stuff i know i don’t deserve. it just hurts though because i was still healing from a toxic relationship from before and all this had to happen. but i guess i just don’t know what to do now so if you read this all thank you so much and i hope someone can give me some advice. 









































One Sided Love

I'm tired. 
Tired of seeking love outside. Because my past relationships and trauma keep haunting me and taunting me that I'm not worth of it. 
First relationship where the guy chased me for over 1.5 years and broke up within 4 months. Told me it was my fault, i didn't know how to make it work. If it was my fault, if i didn't know how to work a relationship u could have taught me. U could have put efforts to make it work but instead of doing that u chose to leave me stranded questioning myself, questioning my worth. 
I couldn't get into another relationship for over 2 years after this happened.
Recently i tried believing in love again. This guy made me realise that i can also love again. He brought out a new version of me which i didn't even know exist in me. He made me more open, bold and expressive. But broke my heart without even being in a relationship. He was neither a friend, nor a boyfriend but when he left i felt empty inside. It's not that he wanted to leave intentionally. He wanted to cheat on his girlfriend (soon to be wife) with me which i thought was worse than being in a relationship so i pushed him away.

My question is why is it always me? Why always i find such people? 
It's not that I'm incomplete without love. I'm happy by myself and i know that I don't need anyone else to make me happy. I'm just saying that if u cannot give me what i deserve then please stay out of my life. Stop entering my life and messing with my happiness and peace. I'm better off without you so just stay away from me. 
When will i get what i want and what i deserve ?


Other

Feeling confused nd need suggestion I love my best friend and got into relationship with him for like 2 weeks but then due to family issues we separated . I don't know whether he loves or loved me or not . It was 2 years back . Now recently I have him a call nd we are back to normal but it doesn't look like he's interested in talking to me. I don't know what I should do . 

Long Distance Relationship

IDK why i feel anxious about what happened last week, as if cheated, i feel guilty i feel like the need to tell him about what has happened but what i forget is that i did it for myself, to make myself feel better , it made me feel worse yaar. i feel like puking. i don't know ab i am accountable to him am i answerable to him? i don't think so i broke up because he did not have time for me. ,he did not see me for who i wanted him to he did not appreciate or feared on losing. me. i still want him to fear losing me and maybe this thing will help in it or maybe it will end the things for good. maybe , this is the push we need to end our stint . i still feel as if he wont take me , he wont take me back but dude who is he to take me back . it is i who should be the one who decides if. ishoud go back or not . the control should be in my hands , it is i who decides that does he deserve to be in my life or not . he should fear losing me bhai. its him ho led me to do this i was never ever this person who goes on to hook up with random guys and. moreover, while i was in it i had him in my mind . couldne take my mind off him . i still fear that if i ever tell him this he, never come back but shouldn't i be the one who makes. acall ? why should i givee him this liberty . ?

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