Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

this is not a problem that only about fat or skinny. this is how you face it and your mind is more important that the number. i am in a similar situation with you, my uncle who is not really familiar called me fat like pig, my mum told me I’m already too fat, look at the belly and butt, my dad keep telling me don’t eat too much. at that situation, i felt so ashamed and don’t want to see everyone. when i go out, everytime i can saw my reflection, i just hate it and think " why i’m so fat, look at my leg, my face, my double chins and my belly. no one will love me, not family members and not even boy that i loved. but so what, others give harsh comments to me so i need to be sad and accept the idea of no one loves me ? this is crazy. as long as i am not harming my health, and that’s my body, why i need to lived under others standard ? you are not disgusting or ugly but special to everyone. You deserved to be loved instead of these kind of ugly words and minds !

First of all being preety doesn’t mean how you look but how you feel about yourself…
And i know society always tells us whats good for us whats not. But they don’t understand it results to self hatred…

What i wanted to tell you sister
The more you listen to the people around you, the more you get affected…
It doesn’t matter who tells you
That you are fat …the thing is. You won’t change yourself for you
But for the others…to fit in the societal standards…but what’s the use of bringing change when you don’t love yourself as you are now…?
What’s the use of anything if all it leads to self hatred in the end?
Im not telling you that don’t lose your weight or something like that…but I’m telling you before losing your weight learn to love your this body,love the process of becoming better … don’t lose weight just to fit in the societal standards…and people have always something to say
So its up to you
Are you gonna hate yourself for that or gonna love yourself no matter what other says about you…
You were preety, you are preety
You will be preety
With or without weight lose…
Do it for yourself not for the others…i hope you get my words

you’re not fat babe, you’re beautiful asf, I grew up to be a chubby baby too, got compared because my cousins were slimmer and more fit but you know what I still achieved more than them, I was a national player, I remember my classmates telling me that I am fat and I can’t dance guess what I completed my diploma in 2 different classical dance forms because I also kept one thing in mind that how I look doesn’t matter what matters is the size of my heart and the strength of my character. wear whatever the heck you want flaunt those curves, let the world see how pretty and elegant you’re, you wanna wear shorts wear it, you wanna wear a dress wear it because life is too short to worry about what others say or think about you, to be honest half of them don’t really know about themselves, but then also remember workout not to look good or to be skinny workout to be healthy, I know how it feels when people say that you’re fat especially your parents in my case it was my mum, I started losing weight because of all those talks and guess what now if I am underweight, i swear don’t let these talk get you, workout to be a strong women who fight wild bears in the forest[trying to cheer you up] love yourself, love your curves. listen to all kinds of badass songs helps with self-confidence. but just love yourself, because the way you treat yourself is the same way others treat, they just reflect you energy, tell the world to shut up and live your life the way you want!!!