You need to choose you first :)

Aww, I understand. As long as you dont try to overpower or exert too much influence, it is okay to be a bit jealous.

Don’t expect much from people. Someday or the other, it will lead to disappointment

Too much expectations leads to disappointment. So don’t expect anything from mothers. You are hurting yourself only. It’s all about priorities in life. May be they have other prior commitments before you.