I feel so neglected by my boyfriend sometimes. The only time when it is super intimate or affectionate is when he is trying to be sexual. HE will kind of hold my hand and kinda kiss, but he doesn’t really give me that love and passion. Furthermore, I notice if I don’t start a conversation to reach out to hold his hand or something, we will literally stay in silence and not touch each other. One last thing, I hope this doesn’t sound clingy because I honestly don’t think this is what it is, but I can’t stand it when we are supposed to be spending time together and he just leaves. I will be at his house laying in bed waiting to watch our show and two hours later I will come to find out that he is just talking to his roommate. We go kayaking and I am paddling halfway across a bay I am unfamiliar with and then I look around and he isn’t there, I find him and he is sitting in his kayak listening to music telling me it was hard to paddle ( I told him he could have told me he was going to take a break, but he brushed it off). I am at his home for Thanksgiving, I walked into his room so we could chill on the bed together, he got up and was talking to his family at first now he is just watching tv and hasn’t said a word really to me in the past 5 hours. Is there something wrong here?
Honestly, it sounds like y’all will be breaking up soon. This is obviously not a very connected relationship and his behavior will probably not change any time soon. His actions express disinterest in you, and I think you should end things and not drag yourself through this relationship any longer. Get the pain over with.
I agree with @ellarush13 and you do not sound clingy at all. It seems like he only wants you there for his sexual urges. Looking through your experiences he doesn’t want to be around you other than for that reason. It shows he isn’t worthy of your affection, but than again we don’t know his view point. Communication is key! Either try to bring up your feelings to him or break it off. Don’t think this is all your fault because he seems to be avoiding you, which shouldn’t happen in healthy relationships.
