I feel so lonely and left out right now. I was in relationship with my bf for frekin 2 years and 9 months and when we broke up he said that “we were just friends with some little spice”. Moreover is that now he is about to shift and start his new life of college while I’m left behind because I am his junior. We never had a ‘middle friends’ and plus he didn’t allowed me to tell anyone about our relationship either so even if i try to talk with any of my friends regarding our relationship, i have to tell them the whole back story. More important thing is that i broke up with him while i still loved him. I had to do it because i knew he won’t do it so that he doesn’t feels guilty of the decision and now I feel guilty to break up. Sadly, he never did anything special for me like dates and all and i never even complained about it but I felt exhausted because he used to do very late replies, never called me back, never initiated the conversation, and never came to do meet up or catch up and we weren’t able to hang out for long. I don’t know this feeling but I feel like this was all timepass for him and just to brag like “yeah I have a girlfriend!”. But I still love him and want to be in his arms back again or even have like a proper conversation like how we used to when we were friends before and not think that he is my ex now and how badly we messed up by being in relationship with each other. I now have this self doubt weather i wasn’t good enough for him or not.
Sorry to say this seems like he was using you for his benefit. But that’s fine a fool like him doesn’t deserve your love. You try to move on . Make yourself busy so that you don’t think of him. If you try you can get over him dear. Think of your parents and family who trust you.
I don’t even know weather i was being used or not. I’m really assuming and maybe even overthinking about this matter because whenever I see his or his parents stories and status on social media, he really seems to be happy but then i just think that people on social media can be so much fake and he is just smiling for the camera.
And i was really busy this few past weeks but now as I’m a little free, this thoughts are again and AGAIN coming back to me.
Try to divert your mind dear so that you don’t even have time to think about him. Spend time with your family and relax .
In my family case, ‘family’ and ‘relax’ doesn’t belongs in same line without “don’t”
If i try to divert my brain, it will come to him at some point of time. Idk how he is so much connected with my everyday life like i literally can’t even walk on the roads near my house without thinking that once we both walked on this path holding hand and realising how much happy we both were with each other and all those memories.
Plus I’m a very introvert person so idk how to even start a conversation with any of my friends about my relationship and not think that I’m being judged for my actions while I’m trying to tell my story.
School me itti jldi real wala love kese ho jata h, maybe it was attraction.
Sry for u
High school romance bahut jyada dard de jati hai bhai. And i don’t know weather ye real wala love tha ya sirf attraction but jo bhi tha 2.9 years tak chala and I think ki ek bar mai aise alag ho jana causes lot of stress and overthinking which is maybe happening to me and maybe vapas time lag jata hai sab normal feel karne mai (like vapas single jina mai - My friend told me this 🥲)
shiva kumar @shivavolley99
Exactly what happened to me too…used me kinda loved me…break me up and left in my bad…
I’m so sorry for you.
He always included me during his bad times like emotional breakdown and honestly speaking I was always available or maybe if i wasn’t then i used to take some time out during that exact moment to help him feel good and motivate him; but he never included me during his good times and forgets me like i don’t even exist.
Maybe I’m making up this in my mind or maybe this was the actual reality. Jeez I don’t even know what is reality and imagination rn. Everything looks so fake at this kinda moment.
Just accept what they are like…just forgive them … forgive you for what you have done with him the love thing…try to give that love to yourself…you deserve more and… someone is there waiting to solve you up with your problems and he will get out of you…just wait …until focus on yourself
Alex Marsh @alex_marsh
Don’t worry things will be okay be positive
Really hoping for that to happen 🤞
U r perfect n enough the way u r !it vll get easier as time passes by …I promise! Hope u feel better soon!
Sumith Pradeep @noobmaster...
Life is cruel… you either live it and move on… or spent you’re time thinking it’d get better even after you know it won’t…
Then please advice me how to not think that it will get better and restrain myself for msging him and actually live it and move on.
this case is probably very common in a lot of young relationships. not that I’ve seen much of life or the path of relationships, but i think it was right that you broke up with him.
the guilt and the feeling to get back can be at peaks and you might regret breaking up, but it was right. the relationship was definitely toxic and made you go till an extent where you started doubting yourself.
you are not just good enough, you are more than enough for him. for a person like him who might have used you for benefit or didn’t have the same love for you like you had for him, he doesn’t deserve you.
i really hope you find someone who loves you for just the way you are and gives you the respect and importance you need.
Being in multiple relationships is the new normal, just like having multiple jobs throughout your life is. Move on and date again until you’re successful. All of life is a game of learning.
Dating is not right now at top of mind. I just want to improve myself (both physically and mentally) and just give some time to process this whole breakup and how its affecting my life (both relationship and breakup) and how to go back to this new normal.
How old are each of you?