I feel so lonely and left out right now. I was in relationship with my bf for frekin 2 years and 9 months and when we broke up he said that âwe were just friends with some little spiceâ. Moreover is that now he is about to shift and start his new life of college while Iâm left behind because I am his junior. We never had a âmiddle friendsâ and plus he didnât allowed me to tell anyone about our relationship either so even if i try to talk with any of my friends regarding our relationship, i have to tell them the whole back story. More important thing is that i broke up with him while i still loved him. I had to do it because i knew he wonât do it so that he doesnât feels guilty of the decision and now I feel guilty to break up. Sadly, he never did anything special for me like dates and all and i never even complained about it but I felt exhausted because he used to do very late replies, never called me back, never initiated the conversation, and never came to do meet up or catch up and we werenât able to hang out for long. I donât know this feeling but I feel like this was all timepass for him and just to brag like âyeah I have a girlfriend!â. But I still love him and want to be in his arms back again or even have like a proper conversation like how we used to when we were friends before and not think that he is my ex now and how badly we messed up by being in relationship with each other. I now have this self doubt weather i wasnât good enough for him or not.
Sorry to say this seems like he was using you for his benefit. But thatâs fine a fool like him doesnât deserve your love. You try to move on . Make yourself busy so that you donât think of him. If you try you can get over him dear. Think of your parents and family who trust you.
I donât even know weather i was being used or not. Iâm really assuming and maybe even overthinking about this matter because whenever I see his or his parents stories and status on social media, he really seems to be happy but then i just think that people on social media can be so much fake and he is just smiling for the camera.
And i was really busy this few past weeks but now as Iâm a little free, this thoughts are again and AGAIN coming back to me.
Try to divert your mind dear so that you donât even have time to think about him. Spend time with your family and relax .
In my family case, âfamilyâ and ârelaxâ doesnât belongs in same line without âdonâtâ
If i try to divert my brain, it will come to him at some point of time. Idk how he is so much connected with my everyday life like i literally canât even walk on the roads near my house without thinking that once we both walked on this path holding hand and realising how much happy we both were with each other and all those memories.
Plus Iâm a very introvert person so idk how to even start a conversation with any of my friends about my relationship and not think that Iâm being judged for my actions while Iâm trying to tell my story.
School me itti jldi real wala love kese ho jata h, maybe it was attraction.
Sry for u
High school romance bahut jyada dard de jati hai bhai. And i donât know weather ye real wala love tha ya sirf attraction but jo bhi tha 2.9 years tak chala and I think ki ek bar mai aise alag ho jana causes lot of stress and overthinking which is maybe happening to me and maybe vapas time lag jata hai sab normal feel karne mai (like vapas single jina mai - My friend told me this đ„Č)
shiva kumar @shivavolley99
Exactly what happened to me tooâŠused me kinda loved meâŠbreak me up and left in my badâŠ
Iâm so sorry for you.
He always included me during his bad times like emotional breakdown and honestly speaking I was always available or maybe if i wasnât then i used to take some time out during that exact moment to help him feel good and motivate him; but he never included me during his good times and forgets me like i donât even exist.
Maybe Iâm making up this in my mind or maybe this was the actual reality. Jeez I donât even know what is reality and imagination rn. Everything looks so fake at this kinda moment.
Just accept what they are likeâŠjust forgive them ⊠forgive you for what you have done with him the love thingâŠtry to give that love to yourselfâŠyou deserve more and⊠someone is there waiting to solve you up with your problems and he will get out of youâŠjust wait âŠuntil focus on yourself
Really hoping for that to happen đ€
Josh @josh545
Shit happens
Agreed.
U r perfect n enough the way u r !it vll get easier as time passes by âŠI promise! Hope u feel better soon!
Amen.
Thank You đ„č
Sumith Pradeep @noobmaster...
Life is cruel⊠you either live it and move on⊠or spent youâre time thinking itâd get better even after you know it wonâtâŠ
Then please advice me how to not think that it will get better and restrain myself for msging him and actually live it and move on.
this case is probably very common in a lot of young relationships. not that Iâve seen much of life or the path of relationships, but i think it was right that you broke up with him.
the guilt and the feeling to get back can be at peaks and you might regret breaking up, but it was right. the relationship was definitely toxic and made you go till an extent where you started doubting yourself.
you are not just good enough, you are more than enough for him. for a person like him who might have used you for benefit or didnât have the same love for you like you had for him, he doesnât deserve you.
i really hope you find someone who loves you for just the way you are and gives you the respect and importance you need.
Being in multiple relationships is the new normal, just like having multiple jobs throughout your life is. Move on and date again until youâre successful. All of life is a game of learning.
Dating is not right now at top of mind. I just want to improve myself (both physically and mentally) and just give some time to process this whole breakup and how its affecting my life (both relationship and breakup) and how to go back to this new normal.
How old are each of you?
