I feel really disgusting sometimes. It’s just I want to give happiness to everyone I want to be nice to all but then I remember the things that person did to me or said to me in past and now I really have trust issues. I hate people. There are few people in my life whom I have trust but for others I can only see negetives in them. I know I am a good person, I am very emotional too. But it’s just like sometime I feel like I am really bad who is selfish, impatient.
You need to understand your stance and for that you have to let go of the past cus it’s holding you back
I feel the same and idk how to let go of the past
If you feel like you are selfish or impatient just observe your behaviour when you feel upset over someone. For example in the past your friend did not invite you to a party and whenever you see her u remember it and your efforts on being nice is reducing day by day? If the answer to this is YES then there is high chance that you may need to work on forgetting the past. You can do this in many ways by writing down when someone lets you down and buring that paper or tearing it. It gives closure to the past. And look at that person with new lens…most of all don’t overthink anything. Whenever you get stuck in a loop of overthinking…just acknowledge your feeling and tell yourself that this is a thought that will float away with the waves of the ocean…occupy your mind with new learnings and less thinking . 😌
Thanks for the message. I have started the practice of considering the good things that person did to me. And sometimes it helps me.
Exactly. And I am trying to forget the past or the things that happened or said to me. It is just like that most of the time I talk to myself and imagine what I would do or say to the person for a specific situation. This leads me to think that am I going mad? So here I will give you an example, my mother-in-law doesn’t like you to go to your place but her married daughters stay with her most of the time. I don’t stay with her now. But last year when I went to my parent’s house and then I asked my husband that can I stay here for 2 more days and when my husband asked her permission she directly said no and then when my husband got angry she called my mom and said many things to her. Now, this incidence is in my head and every time I see my sisters-in-law at my in-law’s house it triggers that incident and I get angry.
Yeah. We realise the love of parents too late in life …but I can understand you…this trigger does not go away so easily. But in that place if she had supported u even little bit, u will remember it much longer and u will look for doing something nice for her right? I can totally understand how u feel. Just think of it like this, your kindness shud not be shook by anything or anyone. Like Selena Gomez said “kill them with kindness” 😂 the best way to make a person realise they are wrong is by showing them how to be kind. Sure you lost the battle today but u will win the battle tomorrow 🦄 lots of love and support to you dear
Thank you so much. While reading I really feel like Yeah! Being kind is always helping. You explained very nicely that I can feel the calmness and I feel good now. I appreciate it. Please help others with your kind words. You don’t know how much you are supporting others. God bless you.
Im so glad that you found something here that made you feel calmer. There are plenty helping me with the same and lots more will come forward to make u smile. Thank you dear and remember, you are LOVED. ☺️
