I feel Lost in life…Direction less…I feel that I am not going anywhere in life…stuck…and there is no road ahead…I want to do so much…achieve so much…but have no Idea how to do it…nor even the courage/desire to do anything…I dont feel like doing anything at all…I want to feel happy…but I cant feel happy…I want to live…But i see no purpose in living…I cant be at peace only…There is just sadness,anxiety and a heavy sinking feeling that nothing is right in my life or will never go right…I want to love…but there is no one I can love or there is no one who loves me enough…its like nobody needs me…or loves me…nothing good is happening in life…the more I try to make things better the more they get worse…I cant even smile or eat properly…relationships…career…health…nothing is well…nor anything good is working out…I feel like a burden to everyone around me…like I am unwanted…it seems that everyone is unhappy with me…and I am bad…my life has become a series of mistakes and like there is no way out…i know I have to find a way out…but is there? Dont I deserve Love,happiness, success, warmth just like everyone else?Why is everything just going absurdly wrong?
Oh love, you absolutely deserve all the warmth, care, success, happiness that life has to offer. Don’t give up just yet. Sometimes, there is a difficult time…rough period where nothing seems to be going right. It all feels like a domino effect, everything falling apart one after another. But I guarantee, things do get better. I won’t lie and tell you they’ll get better tomorrow or next month. I really don’t know when that will happen, but if you refuse to back down, I guarantee that things will get better, 100%I know that feeling you’re talking about. I’ve been there. And it’s a bad feeling. Horrible. And I can’t seem to remember how I got over it, maybe because my mind tries to blur those bad memories out. But the point is, that I somehow got over it. It was perhaps the comfort and parental support that I had, but trust me, it was a gradual process. Day by day. Incident by incident. Interaction by Interaction.I started trying to shift my focus and focus on the one positive thing that happened to me all day. Whether it was seeing a little baby, or handing over some candies to little children, or a few random jokes with even some not-so-close friends. I think I started feeling grateful for the people and experiences that chose to be with me and not abandon me. And soon those experiences multiplied. Things became better, I got a pet many years later, and I don’t think there is any better way of pouring your love. It is the sincerest, most joyous and soul-melting form of love. I wish I had a guidebook or handbook that I had prepared those many years ago. That might’ve helped you today. But all that I can recall is, when everything seems to be falling apart, don’t try and fix it all. Somehow just randomly snap one moment and say, “you know what, fuck it” and then stop holding onto the baggage of all that weighs you down. Start afresh. Give YOURSELF that chance. Don’t be harsh on yourself. Now is when you need to love yourself more than anyone. Practice it, it takes time, to first accept, then appreciate and then love oneself for who one truly is. Immerse yourself into something that brings you a sense of peace. For me, it was doing a bit of prayer in the evening. It was meditative of sorts. Something that grounds, and helps to stay clear of the negative thoughts for a while.
Start small. Be at it. Don’t give up. And you’ll get through this. I can vouch for it. Write here if it helps. Talk about all the good stuff, bad stuff, the real stuff, but focus on the good. I’m here if you wish to talk…Take good care of yourself ?
Thank you so much for your kind Words…They mean a lot to me and given me a bit of hope…Thank you so much for taking out the time for Me to read this and reply…:) But the sense of peace you are talking about…Where do I find it? I just cant be at peace with anything I do…I have tried umpteen things…the things i used to love doing,was/am passionate about also dont give me the peace…What do I do?
I’m glad I could be of some help. I can understand what you mean. It was very difficult for me to find peace again too, because as you mentioned I had lost interest in most of the things that used to earlier bring me joy. Learning the evening prayer really helped me because for those 10-12 minutes while I was saying the prayer, my mind was not worried or overthinking. It was just in the moment and I felt a sense of comfort. Maybe because I felt like I could surrender myself to a spiritual higher power than myself, one that will look out for me and take care of me…probably sounds pretty silly and childish but it brought me a lot of comfort in placing my faith in something bigger, and beyond my control, the unexplainable. Of course, it’s not the same for everyone. Dance, music, art therapies also really work very well for a lot of people. If you feel it’s been too long, and you’re not able to come out of it, then do consider some therapy. There’s no harm in coping using these means. They are all healthy for you. :)
Khushboo @khushboo
You are losing hope and that’s why your life is sad, stuck, anxious and many more. But let me tell you our life depends on how we see it. You deserve a lot of happiness, love, success in life. Try to achieve them .
Deepanshi @deepanshigupta0
I know that feeling you’re talking about. And it’s a bad feeling. Horrible. And i don’t know how to get over it,But the point is, that you somehow have to get over it.You deserve a lot of happiness, love, success in life. And don’t worry ypu will get all. Just pray for the bestand have faith in yourself
Deepanshi @deepanshigupta0
I know that feeling you’re talking about. And it’s a bad feeling. Horrible. And i don’t know how to get over it,But the point is, that you somehow have to get over it.You deserve a lot of happiness, love, success in life. And don’t worry ypu will get all. Just pray for the bestand have faith in yourself
Deepanshi @deepanshigupta0
I know that feeling you’re talking about. And it’s a bad feeling. Horrible. And i don’t know how to get over it,But the point is, that you somehow have to get over it.You deserve a lot of happiness, love, success in life. And don’t worry ypu will get all. Just pray for the bestand have faith in yourself
Deepanshi @deepanshigupta0
I know that feeling you’re talking about. And it’s a bad feeling. Horrible. And i don’t know how to get over it,But the point is, that you somehow have to get over it.You deserve a lot of happiness, love, success in life. And don’t worry ypu will get all. Just pray for the bestand have faith in yourself
How hard! I would like to share your burden.
The proven truth is that most of the formulas you get from people seldom work. Which does not mean there is no hope… I am not talking religion here… but a definite system to understand your situation and seeing unwanted elements coming out of it. I am ready to sit with you over a cup of tea.
I can say to you that I know what you feel believe me. I’ve been in this journey of figuring out things with my life. I thought I figure everything and I know what i’m doing. It feels like i’m very sure about whats my purpose but I woke up one day feeling lost and hopeless about who I am and why I am here. Feeling “Stuck” and no reason to live anymore because I just gave up in life and i’m quiet tired but I realised I’m also tired of loosing myself, i’m also tired making me feel like i’m a looser in my own life story and I’m the Author of this life, maybe that why things are not going right because I focus on the things that I don’t want to happen in my life and maybe i’m just doing the same thing thats why I always got the same result right?
I don’t want to give up on myself because I only have me. Even the timing is not yet for me, even I don’t have someone to love why wouldn’t I love myself even better? Even i’m not successful yet why can’t I focus my energy achieving all the things step by step since i’m not yet even in the half of what success really means? (I remember talking to a very successful Boss in our company he said that at an early age he achieve everything he wants and right now it feels like he doesn’t even know what to do and what he needs since he have everything.) In a brighter perspective for us who didn’t achieve most of the things in this world why can’t we use that as an edge because we have a lot of potential to win in life.
I realised I don’t want to give up in myself because I don’t want other people like me to give in their self. I hope we don’t give up to ourselves, I know that its hard right now and it seems everything is impossible but we have to move, we have to at least love ourselves so we can choose to change every day is a chance for us its not always down so when you feel theirs a light and its up I hope you can choose to see the brighter side of life. Start on yourself before everything will change.
P.S YOU DESERVE EVERYTHING IN THE WORLD, ITS UP TO YOU TO CHOOSE WHAT YOU THINK YOU DESERVE :)
