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I feel in my bones that i am not good enough for my partner. I try to be better and change myself for the better but i just end up making the same mistakes everytime. No matter how hard i push it is the same everytime. I want things to be better and i want to be enough for me. It is not like he says any such thing to me but i can not stop thinking this. I try to be good but i am not good enough. Please i need suggestions how i can stop making the mistakes that i make. Or please tell me what i should do because this makes me frustated and i feel like hurting myself.

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j

Hey, maybe your mistakes make you attractive to him? Be yourself. That’s great that you are trying but don’t force yourself to be perfect. You are who you are and perfect in your own way. To be truthful it depends on what kind of mistakes you make or are they mistake at all. Your heart will tell you the real answer.
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c

This may be how you feel but it might be the opposite for your partner. may be he/ she likes you the way you are try not to change yourself but to improvise yourself. try being more like how you feel to be. changing anything may put you in much more frustration about how thingsthat may not go your way even after changing. talk to your partner how does he feels about you. is it enough for your partner to be yourself. try being a happy person ,love yourself. that would be more that enough.

Anonymous

But it is like this feeling that he deserves better than me; that he is better than what he gets from me. Even though he says nothing as such i want to be perfect. I want to be enough. I am having a lot of trust issues even if i try talking i can not express.

c

as a matter of fact try thinking like i am enough for him. try to embrace yorself like you are.you are more than enough for him and perfect like you want to be.otherwise he wouldn’t be with you,right??? as far your trust issues from what i am seeing they are more insecurities about yourself as if you are perfect ,or you want to do something better than now. try being yourself around him notice his reaction and then decide whether to change or not. if you can’t talk try this trick once if you being you around him makes him feel like you are differnt and happy with him,you would clearly see that. then no point of changing yourself.

Anonymous

I dont know dude. I am literally losing my calm and it is making me question everything. I dont know who to talk to.

c

thats the part that you are not allowed to do.don’t lose your calm.

Anonymous

Request you to be yourself and if yoir partner accepts you that way then only things could be good