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I feel exhausted…My BF’s female friend began talking after 2 months,the time in which we became friends and turned out to a couple…But i dont feel good and i just feel jealous and angry when this friend of his puts status for him,as they were very much close before(more like lovers as she used to share everything with him …even the deepest things in her relationship)…She has said to him that she misses him and the reply to her was a luv u from him…My BF tells me everything about her and all this i know is from him.But he also makes me jealous knowingly but telling her name and the moments with her…i luv him but i also think of leaving him for her as she seemingly try to not talk to him telling that i would feel bad…He says that he wud tell everything ro me about her and asks y do i fight for such silly things …He says that she’s just a friend and also dat he feels a connection towards her so that he cant forget her…Few months before she faught and left him as he started to talk to me and used to make her jealous using my name…it was then we became friends and further more …But now i feel that i can’t handle it anymore…We had a fight today also…actually i dont want to lose him but also i feel exhausted…i’m confused😔…Some one pls help…

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@prinks

Talk to him about this whole situation and the way you are feeling right now.
Discussion with him will let you understand this point too, then you will be able to know his true feelings and its natural to get jealous in a relationship but you need to make sure that its just jealousy and there is nothing to worry about this so just confront him and simply ask about that friend of his and try to explain your feeling

snktmore
@snktmore

The most important thing I see in your scenario is you all know where your problem lies. To resolve it open up to each other. I’m certain you all are just few steps away fixing it. Please discuss and in no time you’ll be at peace!

Anonymous

I have told him several tyms that i dont feel comfortable… he replies that she’s just a friend…But i feel that they r more than just friends coz he feels more connected towards her n he even forgets his anger towards her when he listen to her voice…i m not that jealous a person when he speaks to his other female friends but she was too much close to him that he has even cried so much when she left him few months before…i dont know what to do…😔

snktmore
@snktmore

That’s the reason 3 of you need to discuss this face to face. If your partner isn’t ready then talk to his friend and let her know how you feel about this situation. If they were best friend from long time then your partner needs time to come out of it. If you keep bothering him with same issue he might get frustrated. I’ll suggest you to talk with his friend over thinking will cause more harm to you then anybody.

Anonymous

If i talk to her she will definitely stop talking to him by telling him that i will feel bad…This has happened before…But still then for my own thoughts n selfishness both my Bf and his friend will miss each other…i’m confused

snktmore
@snktmore

I understand. If you want this to resolve on a good note then overcome your jealousy and accept they are just friends. You are complicating the situation for yourself. If you want answers you’ll need to ask right questions. If you are afraid of the outcome then you are hurting yourself. If you’ll face this situation bravely you will atleast have choice to decide on how to handle the relationship.

Anonymous

I spoke to him today…n he said that he feels no difference between her n me which hurted me a lot …My luv for him had failed there itself…n he asked me if i want to break up…i said yes n now…im broken.

Anonymous

I dont whether it was right or wrong…pls help me

snktmore
@snktmore

That’s disheartening!! You can still fix this, talk to his friend now when there is nothing to lose. Let her know about it. Look, if the guy really wants to be with you then he will; now that he has backup he might not want to. Talk to his friend ask if she is happy about it? If that girl genuinely want you both to be together she will back off and move on. If you don’t want to be blamed for her moving on from your partners life then for the final time ask your BF. Does he really want to breakup with you for her?

snktmore
@snktmore

Sooner or later this was meant to happen. If you really feel this guy is for you then hold on for him. Else, move on! I know it sounds mean but if you can look at it in long term relationship. You have right to know what he feels about her above you. I also understand your BF is confuse as well because he is unable to make firm choice. Give this episode few days! Don’t be upset life is all about taking chances, you win some you lose some. But the most importantly you should play fair game. Cheer up!!

snktmore
@snktmore

Hey, just wanted to check how are you doing and whats the situation now?