I feel Betrayed
I just saw pictures of several naked woman on my man’s deleted folder in his cellphone. I have been trusting him for so long. weve been together for 2 years already. He said it was just one he felt so bored. He joined a sex group chats and photos that I saw were the photos sent in GC Members. It was automatically saves in his phone. But I dont believe him. I’m confused. I really want to cut the relationship but we have a child. I dont want my child to grow up without a father. Pls. help me out 😭 What should I do? 😔
I can understand your dilemma but I feel so confused myself because this is purely based on the moral system that governs our society. What he’s doing is practically like watching porn, am I right? But then again, you don’t entirely know what the situation is and nor do you know if he’s lying to you, so that brings a little trust barrier too.
Ultimately it boils down to, is he the right example or the right kind of person to have around a child? I suppose that’s for you to decide based on what the actual situation is. Is it something you’re comfortable with? Is it completely just voyeurism (as in the case of watching porn)? Are his intentions right? Is he perverted? If you have the answer to these questions, along with taking into consideration how he is as a partner and father, you will know what to do.
As far as betrayal goes, I can understand how you feel. But if it is harmless, then you don’t need to take it personally, if that’s something you’re okay with. If he isn’t emotionally or physically cheating on you, then I suppose it’s alright to continue the relationship. I would say, you are the one who has to live with him and have more details about him. We have just heard a single, one-off incident. This means that you need to decide how healthy or toxic the relationship is by yourself based on a lot of factors, for you to know whether or not you’d like to continue. I suppose that’s all from my side. Hope it helped a little.