I ended things up with my best friend few days back. The reason is she’s too busy to prioritise other people than me, as it contradicts her own statements of me being her priority. There is this person she had a crush on since a very long time but that ended very badly. I was always there for her. But she met that guy ( a great manipulator) few days back and they had sex because of which I was constantly with her as they did it without protection. That guy wasn’t really that worried as he just texted her 3-4 times asking about the situation. But i was there for the whole time when she had to do the tests or whatever. And then that problem was solved but after that she did not have time to see me. I was constantly asking her if she could meet up but she was too busy which I understood as obviously career comes first. But i stopped understanding the day when I saw her snap having lunch with the same guy who left her in that situation. And not just that, I saw snaps of her hanging out with other friends even when I had been asking her constantly to catch up since 2 months. So now I ended things normally with no fight or anything because I’m hurt.
I can completely understand your position. And i am sorry for you.
I also understand her situation because I’ve been that girl, and lost all my friends and then years later of so much abuse and shit happening to me i understood I was in toxic and abusive relationships and it was because I was brought up in that chaos and abuse and that’s all we kinda know and the predators know how to pick their next victims.
So I don’t think you’re wrong, and not are your feelings. But make sure you’re not giving up on her because she can’t understand maybe what’s happening and can’t control her times and priorities because toxic people isolate you especially narcissists etc.
Just make sure you’re not being too insensitive to her situation as well. And ofc you’re a great friend for being there but if she hasn’t truly ever been a friend to you when she wasnt in this fkd up relationship/situationship then cutting her off is the best for you. But incase u know better and these are just immediate feelings and you rightly feel betrayed, then make sure to sit with your feelings and be open and understanding in the right way possible. That’s all.
I did my best. But there’s a level I can go down to. It’s been almost a month a i would say but I did not expect her to give up on me that easily. I will always be there for her and will always support her in everything. But I can’t deal with being taken for granted anymore. I don’t want to trust on the sugar coated words anymore. I have my mental health to look after too.
Absolutely. And you’re right.
Thats it! No one deserves to be taken for granted. Just take care of yourself, focus on yourself. Find your tribe and people.
And incase she gets back to you make sure to tell her all this if you wish to continue talking to her otherwise she’ll never know and you’ll never know if she cares to change that and sees what’s happening intentionally or unintentionally. And incase she don’t have it in her to realise and get her shit together regarding both of yalls friendship then it’ll be done for good and you won’t feel like you couldn’t let her know how you feel and felt.
Be good to yourself, take care my friend. I hope your friend gets out of toxic relationships and hope she finds you with a better perspective and understanding. I hope you find the best for yourself and can keep making good decisions for yourself and keep doing good and find the right kind of friends and may you be filled with abundance of compassion and love for yourself and everyone deserving of it.
Best of wishes, hope you feel better soon. Hope you get your friend back safe and saner. ':D
Thank you so much for all these great words! I really appreciate! Thank you.
