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not_kev @extro_introvert

I don’t understand what is the feeling of Love.
I fell in love with my best friend and after I expressed to her she couldn’t accept it since she didn’t feel the same at that moment and also she could give it a chance as she chose to not get into a relationship with me because we are of different religion. That’s still fine she has clarity of what she wants. But we remained the same as close friends. It’s been a year now but now when she’s hanging out with some other guy giving time to others I feel jealous I feel I’m left out. I feel I’m not prioritised. And I find myself trapped with my own emotions not letting me feel free… I feel depressed immediately until the next time I spend time with her. How to handle this. Though I wanna forget my feelings for her yet it’s hard to unlove her. And I don’t think I’m moving on with my life anymore.
How to handle this situation. How do I overcome this and come out of the trap that I’m feeling?

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Anonymous

Let her go for your good

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not_kev @extro_introvert

She’s a good friend to me and why would I leave her. Wouldn’t that be too selfish of me to do that?

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Anonymous

It is life I mean don’t let her go but don’t think of her as more than best friend accept the fact that she thinks of you as a friend not more than that

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Anonymous

I’m trying. But it’s quite hard, like it almost feels impossible. I’m an emotionally driven person and the sense of love and amount of love I have for her is uncontrollable sometimes. I just feel I’m not moving ahead in life. She’s far better than so many girls around me and I can’t see anyone better than her. I just can’t get over her. What u say is right but it’s hard to put in practice.

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Anonymous

I have been there in the same situation
It’s very difficult to get rid of the feelings you will have feelings for her but time heals everything…

You will find I am damn sure you will find a better version of her or someone who loves you like you deserve

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Anonymous

I hope that turns true. Thanks ❤️

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Anonymous

Yes it will 💜

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Anonymous

Jb uske me feelings nhi hai to ab uske sath friendship bhi nhi chal paygi kyunki tm uske liye feel rakhte ho aur dusro ke sath ghumegi to bura lgega hi isiliye baat chit rkho lekn duri bna lo ab kyunki suffer tmhi kroge agr uske aas pas rhoge to

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Anonymous

Baat toh sahi hai. It’s affecting me a lot. I will consider your opinion. I hope it works fr me.

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Shraddha M. @shraddha_mang...

Hey, it seems that you have gotten attached to the idea of ‘her’ because you have mentioned she’s better than a lot of girls you know. In which case, I’m taking the liberty to assume that maybe she ticks most of the boxes in your preference list. And when we idealize someone like that we operate from a scarcity mindset, which makes us believe that, “I have limited options”, “I wouldn’t find anyone else” and so forth. This is the reasoning part you need to be aware of. Talking about emotions, just how others have mentioned- maybe limit the contact for a while, process your heavy emotions and simultaneously focus on career/social life/building new connections/health etc. Hope this helps & feel free to connect for a session.

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Anonymous

Thanks! These are quite helpful advices that I should use 🙂

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Anonymous

Yes you’re right. I will surely consider what you said. Just need a strong heart to deal with all of this and to overcome this. I just hope and pray I overcome this as soon as possible. I had BPD from a few months ago. I’ve gone through all of that for her when I couldn’t control myself. The pain almost felt like a breakup. I’m in a little better state now but yeah I’m still not at peace.
You guys have been helpful and gave me a scope to think differently. I’ll try. Hope I’ll get through it.

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