I don’t know whether I should write this or not ,I live with my son as my husband lives abroad,but my son who is 20 yes old is turning to be so selfish day by day. He doesn’t even feel that there is another person living in that house and hardly talks and if only in monologues , orders food sometimes and don’t even ask me whether I will eat or not .now a days I feel that at this point of life they should start living seperately otherwise you will get hurted day by day by your little expectations and by their ignorance .
My suggestion is that U need to know his interests. Magic is in doing things together. Ask him to help you or u just enter into his world. Don’t miss any moment with him. Just do anything together. Trust me will love u more than u ever thought.
This is a bit odd because this type of behavior can happen in the teenage years but from 20 y-o onwards, he should be getting into a more mature and understanding mindset. He should see your efforts as a mother at this point. He might be feeling frustrated and wanting to live alone and work but unable to. It’s time for him to live alone or with housemates so he can grow as a person for sure.
The best way is to confront him and have a conversation. Be calm in the conversation and ask him the questions you want to ask.