I dated someone for a really long time and basically did everything I humanly could to make them be happy, confident, secure and sane all the time. Now we’ve broken up and all I heard was mean comments and a lot of crap that made me question my own self worth. How do people not see how much you do for them? And after all of this, I question whether I deserve to be loved at all. I’ve been through so many bad relationships. For this one, I gave everything I had. I just feel like I’m not someone that’s lovable anymore. The worst part is, he’s completely fine. After everything falling apart and everything I did, he is just completely fine.
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Don’t know if anyone is still active on this post, but my ex called me today and threatened to mess my life up because I posted a picture with a guy, who’s my best friend, who he has a problem with. I’m really scarred. I don’t know how to
I don’t know how to cope.
Hey, I think I read your post today and I’ve replied to it. [ if that’s you? ]
Clearly, he wasn’t as invested in the relationship as you were. For him to be such a douche and go ahead and say mean things to you, no offence. Someone who cannot realise the value of what they have, and go ahead and make the other person feel less, are the worst people of all time. AND SIS, DON’T YOU DARE QUESTION YOURSELF. That’s how most of these manipulative scums are, again no offence, but that’s exactly how they are and what they do. They bring their own baggage into the relationship, their insecurities and lack of worth, and I mean this in the worst way possible. The kind of insecurity and sense of worth that puts their partner down, that puts their own selfish needs above anyone else’s. The kind that makes them blind to another human being’s feelings. And please please please don’t feel like you’ve failed math, just because your teachers all these years have been telling you that 2+2=7. It’s not your fault. It doesn’t make you unlovable. You just haven’t dated the right person. A good relationship, which is pretty rare tbh, is so wholesome omg, it will melt your heart and will always keep you happy. And it is effortless, oh so effortless. You just have to be there for each other, and that’s all it takes. No extra tantrums, mind games, selfish sacrifices. It’s calming. So, please don’t give up on that kind of love. That love is patient and understanding. Just stick around, notice the signs in people, and don’t make choices that put your partner at a pedestal. Choose someone who will choose YOU. It’s the most beautiful experience ever. You will find that love. Don’t you worry ❤️
Thank you, I really needed this. I’ve just been in such a terrible place lately where all I can do is cry every single day. Reading this made me feel a whole lot better. Thank you.
I’m so glad it helped. I hope your unpleasant experience makes you stronger, I read above that you feel foolish, and I want to let you know that the brightest of people make the stupidest decisions when it comes to matters of the heart. It doesn’t make you foolish. Try to learn from this to make better decisions for yourself, because you are the most important person at the end of the day. Not him, not anyone who puts you down. Take care ❤️
Deepanshi @deepanshigupta0
Hey! I will just say remove toxic people from your life. That’s so cheap saying all the crap about a girl just because you broke up. I mean breaking up doesn’t give you right to blabber anything about a girl. Don’t trust these people. Stay positive. Power to you.
Do not question your self worth over someone who’s completely fine after your break up. He clearly didn’t love you the way that you loved him. People like that are not worth it, especially when you gave it your all. At this point, the problem does not lie with you but with him. If he’s the one saying mean things about you, he’s only trying to make you miserable. He’s that selfish. People like that don’t deserve your kindness. You’re only going to hurt yourself if you keep holding onto this (I know letting go is hard. Even more when you’ve been together for a long time. So take your time. Just don’t let it get to the point where there’s no turning back).
Please remember that your self worth depends on yourself. Not others. In life, you’re only what you make of yourself. You don’t need others to validate your existence. If you gave it your best and it didn’t work out then it’s probably for the best (Since he didn’t care enough to have it affect him anyway). It’s your decision to move on and find someone better but the important thing is that YOU SHOULDN’T QUESTION YOUR SELF WORTH WHEN YOU CLEARLY GAVE IT YOUR ALL. Your actions have spoken for yourself. Sometimes you just have to let go because some things are not worth keeping around.
I apologize if I come off a bit rude while writing this but I’m just really passionate about people’s self worth. It’s important to be considerate of others but you must also take care of yourself too. I hope that my words can encourage you to move on and realize that you are worth something. Everyone is worth something. They just have to find it in themselves first. I hope you can recover from this and I wish you the best of luck!
No you weren’t rude at all. Honestly, I went to another country just to see this person and since then I’ve just been so broken apart. I realise that I have to separate myself and try to love myself as an individual right now. I just feel so foolish right now, and like all I want to do is take everything back. And thank you for all the time and effort you put into composing this, it means a lot.
Khushboo @khushboo
Hey, please don’t trust easily on people. Someone who don’t know your value is the worst person you can ever have. Stay positive and focused in life. More power to you.
I really will, thank you so much
