I can remember my ex really trying at one-time to make the relationship work but he was still looking at lingerie models online and downloading their pictures. How could I trust him knowing that he was doing that? He also said things about my weight like calling me hefty, referring to my wide hips, and also warned me that someone at his church would say something about my weight. How could I have let this go? Was I wrong?
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Damn thatβs toxic af.
Yes and very hurtful
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
You deserve someone who loves you for the 2ay you are. He ainβt the one, sis.
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
*way
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Nah. It wasnβt a waste of time. You become more wiser when you go through stuff like these.
I agree it was so hurtful and I was embarrassed
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
The audacity of this dude π€’
It was confusing to me
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
You wanna vent bout it?
Yes
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Ok. Iβm listening.
We were together 3 years. I went through all of that and he left me asked for stuff back and wanted me not to be mad that he broke up with me. Shortly after he left me he started hanging out with someone else fairly quickly
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Ouch. Was there any particular reason he said bout leaving you?
He said I argued too much when I would mention him downloading pictures of lingerie models as well as making comments about my weight. On our first date he told me that I wasnβt a model and thatβs when he warned me that someone at his church may say something about my weight
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Damn⦠so many red flags and you still hanged on to him.
Yes i should have let it go. He apologized with flowers but I could never forget what he said to me throughout the relationship
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Gurl a lot of things are wrong here. Youβre too blind in love to see those problems. To be honest, we guys do check out other gurls and we do let our gurls know that weβre checking out. The sole reason is to make our gurls annoyed or jealous. And they also do the same. But we know that it wonβt cross the line. But this dude, ok lets keep aside the lingerie thing, above all who is he to make comments bout your body? That itself is a legit reason to dump him.
Yeah. He would poke at my belly and ask me when was my baby due and he knew that I wasnβt pregnant. Anytime that attended his church he would always come back yet another comment about my weight so I stopped going to his church
Yes. He would poke at my belly and ask me when was my child due and he knew that I was not pregnant. Everytime I attended his church he was always come back with a comment about my weight it was so bad that I stopped attending his church
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Hey itβs okay. Itβs great now that youβre out of it. Youβre doing good. Imagine how it wouldβve destroyed you if you were still stuck there. Thereβs more love to be found. Some dude will come and he may not be prince charming, but he will accept all your flaws and embrace the lil imperfections. Hang in there buddy. Real ones are comingπ«β€οΈ
Thatβs true. I wish I had got up from that table on that first date and never looked back. I made a terrible mistake and kept him around and he kept bringing up this hurtful stuff and I even helped him alot while weβre together. We managed to get engaged and when he broke up with me he took the ring back. He told me that there is no use in me keeping it and we were not getting married. The worst relationship of my life.
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Yeah. Itβs inevitable. These things are the incidents which makes us who we are. Donβt loose hope. Now you know a red flag when you see one. Growthπ₯
So true and you are right. Do you think he will ever regret how he treated me?
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Of course honey. You know what they say, karma is a boomerang. Itβs gon hit him so hard that heβll regret even waking up in the morning. But we canβt wish that upon people, makes us no better than themβ¦ so let karma do it. You just take a deep breath and let this stuff go. Itβll passβ¦
Yes I will continue to do that. I have sent him nothing but positive vibes. I did return all of his stuff by mail. He text me and told me not to be mad and that we shouldnβt have ill will against each other. I never responded
Jazzie G @bruce_wayne_
Yeah. Donβt reply. Donβt give him a closure.
I didnβt. In that box I mailed I enclosed a letter thanking him for showing me his real colors and for also letting me go. I told him that he didnβt have to return any of the gifts that I had given him. When he text me back he claimed that I defamed his character as well as asking me not to be mad at him
Yes it was