I am very much confusedā¦i am in a relationship for almost 3 yearsā¦i am 3 rd year student,i started my relationship in 1 st yr itselfā¦just by chatting for 3 months. I didnāt think about him initiallyā¦the daily chats were goodā¦i Dont know what is love at that time. Is anyone there to hear??
Yes, listening you
Watermelon @radiant21
Figure it out for me too
I was acting in a short film at that timeā¦i was new to collegeā¦and somewhat pretty. They askes me to do a roleā¦i did for funā¦but it was too lameā¦everybody in the class teased meā¦i was totally upset at those timeā¦only him talked to me supported meā¦and that made me fall for himā¦just one reasonā¦but it was huge for me at that time
I dont know what love meansā¦but his support made me thinkā¦it will be good if he supports me through out my life. But we not even met more than 5 or 6 timesā¦just the beginneg of college days
Frost @ash_26266
Iāll suggest you one thing donāt get intimate in the first meets atleast wait for until u both get engaged or something or ur parents know about it
Joker @aksrider4201
Just take things slowly. Donāt overthink it Go with the flow
If you are confused then meet himā¦spend time with him in personā¦chats doesnāt tell you the tone or the moodā¦but the person in front of youā¦his way of talkingā¦see if he talks like he used to talk you while chattingā¦those Lil cute momentsā¦are you doing that or notā¦is he admiring you or appreciating you or caringā¦it all will be seen only in personā¦that will automatically clear you out
Frost @ash_26266
Actually same is tha thing with me but Iām in second year and i also fell in love with 3 months chat so i can understand youā¦ We love each other unconditionally and were looking forward to get married too until her brother finds about us and took her phone and now sheās abroad and no talks from past 10 months just a lil chat on her bday in juneā¦ She said sheāll return after 1 yearā¦and yea Iām still waitingā¦ But sometimes Iām afraid i get different thoughtsā¦ I suffer with depression overthinking anxiety low bp and sometimes even hurt myself nowā¦things are getting worse with me and idk how to controlā¦ Itāll bs our second anniversary on October 15 ā¦maybe i can surprise her or do something special for herā¦
Pls dont judge meā¦but i am dusky and he is blackā¦when we started datingā¦is this the man im going to live? And i called my best friendā¦she said appearance are nothing ā¦go onā¦u luv him and that is trueā¦
Frost @ash_26266
Yea appearance means nothingā¦ I fell in love with my gf 6 months before i saw herā¦ofc she saw my pic and liked me but i felt like whatever sheās like she supports me emotionally and i can live with herā¦ She had done much sacrifices for me lost her bestie fought with her family and sisters idk what much more she didnāt tell meā¦ And when i first saw her she became my crush at first sightā¦ Maybe a Reward for my unconditional love š
Frost @ash_26266
And yes she accepted me in the worst of my times whilst other girls look for a successful or maybe run after some guys who might have already achieved somethingā¦ But sheās always like Iām with you do whatever you wantš
Wow thst greatā¦itās like a love story we heard all the times
I am not a racistā¦i respect everyoneā¦but could you understand?
Frost @ash_26266
Haha maybe Iām lucky about that but Iāll pray no one gets a present time like me
Frost @ash_26266
I can understand thatās why i suggested you to give yourself some time and behave like friends with himā¦
Maybe youāll love him and be comfortable around him more like a friendā¦ Cuz donāt ever make such choices which youāll regret for whole lifeā¦
Simple thing to judge a boyā¦ If he cares about you more than anythingā¦i mean if youāre his first priorityā¦ and never forces you to be intimate or something just go for him without a second thought whatever the colour š
Yeah exactly he is really a gemšā¦thats the reason i couldnāt make myself out of itā¦but is this correct to be in loveā¦without complete affection?
Do u feel that i will regret in my future if i leave him?
Frost @ash_26266
Hey you know affection wears away with timeā¦ My gf is so pretty but still i didnāt feel like being with her after 18 months idk why ā¦ It was like i can find better all those odd thoughtsā¦ then her brother seperated us and now i know the true importance of her in my life when sheās not hereā¦ my heart cries for her every momentā¦ So much grief i canāt even bear but yes Iāve feeling sheāll soon come backā¦ Lifeās on hopeā¦ So yea i wanted to say that affection goes away in short terms but in long terms itāll come back when youāll need it mostā¦ But donāt force yourself until you feel comfortable enough
Frost @ash_26266
I told u from my experience Iām regretting that sheās not in my life in my present timeā¦ I didnāt respect her affection and presence when she was here but time made me know the true importance of herā¦ So yes if you both love each other truly surely youāll regret in long run
Why did you think that uāll find better one?
Frost @ash_26266
You know what falling in love feels likeā¦ To know the person we love neednāt be the perfect but still weāll stand with him/her in all his / her bad and good times any situationā¦
I had proposals from some girls who were beautiful than her but my heart didnāt justify it ā¦ Its like i can leave anyone for herā¦ Making her jealous with others will only make her sad but fulfilling her wishes will surely make others jealous and her proud of me and the bond we shareā¦
I never loved her for her body or any selfishness but i just respected her presenceā¦ I liked it how she cared about me and supported me above all.
You know she was my best friend before i proposed herā¦and i did that solely on purpose that i donāt ever lose her to someone elseā¦ I didnāt even try to be romantic with her until she approached meā¦ i never saw her in that way until then cuz her presence her voice her attention was enough for meā¦to make me feel protected that Iām not gonna lose herā¦
You can draw conclusions if weāve something in common and maybe justify your situation and future according to the choices youāre gonna make
We were in lockdown for 8 monthsā¦i too missed him a lot at those daysā¦we only chatā¦we longed to see each otherā¦but now we all are normalā¦i am spending every day with himā¦at some photos we will be like a good coupleā¦at some photosā¦itās not satisfying for meā¦to accept ā¦i am getting thoughts. Like.will i get someone betterš itās easy to say u can love anyone poor rich black white ā¦but in reality i couldnt acceptā¦sorry to ask this qnā¦but do u love ur gf if she is dark?not really prettyā¦
You are talking like a philosopheršā¦i could feel that you miss her a lotā¦i hope that u ll meet her soonā¦and be a happy coupleš
Frost @ash_26266
I was being like you at that momentā¦you know love and liking are two different thingsā¦you know its human nature to be greedy you canāt help itā¦it was like if someone or something gives you too much attention you begin to disrespect itā¦you donāt know itās worth for example we donāt know how valuable is water š¦ until we donāt even have a drop left to drinkā¦
And yes I knew her sister from a long time too ā¦ we sometimes texted and idk what happened to her she began to flirt with me and my gf mentioned she was prettier ā¦ And i was like maybe i should choose the best one so i wonāt regret. In futureā¦ Actually i was confused just like youā¦ Her sister seemed more approaching and desirableā¦ Donāt think i proposed her sister or something but yes i hurt my gf cuz of her many timesā¦ I feel so bad about it now when i read our older chatsā¦
As i told you love and liking are 2 different thingsā¦ I loved her but i started to like her sister and it affected our relationshipā¦ I even once asked for a breakup but sheās a sensible girlā¦ She said donāt rush ik you canāt ever do this and she was right about itā¦
I donāt even feel like talking to her sister when sheās not around nowā¦ Love is altogether a different feelingā¦ Donāt mix it with your desires and likings
Frost @ash_26266
You know what i told myself when i didnāt saw my gf that whatever sheās like i wonāt leave her everā¦
She might be pretty but sheās not perfect and still i love herā¦ sheās got blood infectionsā¦
She was diagnosed with a developing ulcer after 6 months in her uterus still i was with herā¦
She had an operation for it when sheās not with me and already Iām so worried about herā¦
Sheās got sinus infection too but ik Iāll always be with her
I said na love and liking are two different things
If you love someone its not by their colour or accentā¦its by their presence
Liking and crush are just bodily things
Would u like to love a person whoās cute and handsome as hrithik roshan but damn evil as some rapist or some criminal who just thinks girl as a material to satisfy needs??
Frost @ash_26266
Hahaha yesss i actually told you what i wonder myself when i miss her so i might have done phd in philosophy already in my mindšš
Yeah thatās right. Just human stupid mindš¤¦āāļøi want to be matured and confident enough to take decisionsā¦its like a bipolar disorderā¦ši was so much luv with him one dayā¦the next day i am likeā¦will i get some one better? Am i settling for something low ā¦creating a small circle around me?š
Frost @ash_26266
Yes yes same was with meā¦to get out of this feeling i would suggest you to take a break of a month or two from love and just be like friendsā¦ Youāll realise it if youāre really in love just like i did although itās getting too much for me now ā¦
You know its not easy focusing on career while youāre depressed and that too when I have to act normal in front of everyone
No definitelyšI want to be my manās first priority and i m already earned thatšI think i should accept him completelyā¦and thank u for sharing this with meā¦
Frost @ash_26266
Iām glad my experience helped you. ā¤ļø
Exactlyā¦i have friendsā¦but couldnāt tell them after 3 yrs relationship i am having this issueā¦theyāll definitely judge meā¦actually i am doing my mbbsā¦i hope ur girl will recover from all health issuesā¦š¤
Frost @ash_26266
Yea sure theyāll thatās why i donāt talk about this with much peopleā¦ Iām doing my btech tooā¦Hope you Have a happy life aheadā¦ Donāt make stupid decisionsā¦thanks š„° may i hear from her soon
I convinced myselfā¦that colour is not a thinfā¦its just a colourā¦i started to love himā¦i liked his character, i liked his taste about everythinf,his way of respecting parents,everythingā¦but i ll get disturbed sometimws about his appearanxeā¦when ppl around me talk about things like that ā¦i completely love himā¦but when it comes to romance i couldnt feel itā¦i coudnt enjoy itā¦is this my mistake
Frost @ash_26266
Maybe youāll be able to love him more like a friendā¦ Give yourself sometimeā¦ Never go with the choice with which youāll regret your whole life and yes never run behind cute faces too
He loves me a lotā¦I couldnt imagine moving on without himā¦but i cant completely live at the momentā¦i donno wat to do seriouslyā¦i dont want to hurt himā¦
Frost @ash_26266
Hey donāt ever be in blind loveā¦ Cross check if heās putting in the same efforts or trying to like you do for himā¦ I told you already about what to look in boysā¦ If he has those traits just donāt lose him. If youāre his first prize over Everything then donāt care what the world says
Frost @ash_26266
Anyone here?
littleThingz @r_aghavendra
Give it some nd donāt excite
R u saying i need to wait until i love him completelyā¦itās been 3 yrs alreadyā¦i am growing this and it is making me so much difficult to come out
love is just a beautiful illusion nowadays if you will think about it then gradually you will lose yourselfā¦
