I am very much confusedâŚi am in a relationship for almost 3 yearsâŚi am 3 rd year student,i started my relationship in 1 st yr itselfâŚjust by chatting for 3 months. I didnât think about him initiallyâŚthe daily chats were goodâŚi Dont know what is love at that time. Is anyone there to hear??
Yes, listening you
Watermelon @radiant21
Figure it out for me too
I was acting in a short film at that timeâŚi was new to collegeâŚand somewhat pretty. They askes me to do a roleâŚi did for funâŚbut it was too lameâŚeverybody in the class teased meâŚi was totally upset at those timeâŚonly him talked to me supported meâŚand that made me fall for himâŚjust one reasonâŚbut it was huge for me at that time
I dont know what love meansâŚbut his support made me thinkâŚit will be good if he supports me through out my life. But we not even met more than 5 or 6 timesâŚjust the beginneg of college days
Frost @ash_26266
Iâll suggest you one thing donât get intimate in the first meets atleast wait for until u both get engaged or something or ur parents know about it
Joker @aksrider4201
Just take things slowly. Donât overthink it Go with the flow
If you are confused then meet himâŚspend time with him in personâŚchats doesnât tell you the tone or the moodâŚbut the person in front of youâŚhis way of talkingâŚsee if he talks like he used to talk you while chattingâŚthose Lil cute momentsâŚare you doing that or notâŚis he admiring you or appreciating you or caringâŚit all will be seen only in personâŚthat will automatically clear you out
Frost @ash_26266
Actually same is tha thing with me but Iâm in second year and i also fell in love with 3 months chat so i can understand you⌠We love each other unconditionally and were looking forward to get married too until her brother finds about us and took her phone and now sheâs abroad and no talks from past 10 months just a lil chat on her bday in june⌠She said sheâll return after 1 yearâŚand yea Iâm still waiting⌠But sometimes Iâm afraid i get different thoughts⌠I suffer with depression overthinking anxiety low bp and sometimes even hurt myself nowâŚthings are getting worse with me and idk how to control⌠Itâll bs our second anniversary on October 15 âŚmaybe i can surprise her or do something special for herâŚ
Pls dont judge meâŚbut i am dusky and he is blackâŚwhen we started datingâŚis this the man im going to live? And i called my best friendâŚshe said appearance are nothing âŚgo onâŚu luv him and that is trueâŚ
Frost @ash_26266
Yea appearance means nothing⌠I fell in love with my gf 6 months before i saw herâŚofc she saw my pic and liked me but i felt like whatever sheâs like she supports me emotionally and i can live with her⌠She had done much sacrifices for me lost her bestie fought with her family and sisters idk what much more she didnât tell me⌠And when i first saw her she became my crush at first sight⌠Maybe a Reward for my unconditional love đ
Frost @ash_26266
And yes she accepted me in the worst of my times whilst other girls look for a successful or maybe run after some guys who might have already achieved something⌠But sheâs always like Iâm with you do whatever you wantđ
Wow thst greatâŚitâs like a love story we heard all the times
I am not a racistâŚi respect everyoneâŚbut could you understand?
Frost @ash_26266
Haha maybe Iâm lucky about that but Iâll pray no one gets a present time like me
Frost @ash_26266
I can understand thatâs why i suggested you to give yourself some time and behave like friends with himâŚ
Maybe youâll love him and be comfortable around him more like a friend⌠Cuz donât ever make such choices which youâll regret for whole lifeâŚ
Simple thing to judge a boy⌠If he cares about you more than anythingâŚi mean if youâre his first priority⌠and never forces you to be intimate or something just go for him without a second thought whatever the colour đ
Yeah exactly he is really a gemđâŚthats the reason i couldnât make myself out of itâŚbut is this correct to be in loveâŚwithout complete affection?
Do u feel that i will regret in my future if i leave him?
Frost @ash_26266
Hey you know affection wears away with time⌠My gf is so pretty but still i didnât feel like being with her after 18 months idk why ⌠It was like i can find better all those odd thoughts⌠then her brother seperated us and now i know the true importance of her in my life when sheâs not here⌠my heart cries for her every moment⌠So much grief i canât even bear but yes Iâve feeling sheâll soon come back⌠Lifeâs on hope⌠So yea i wanted to say that affection goes away in short terms but in long terms itâll come back when youâll need it most⌠But donât force yourself until you feel comfortable enough
Frost @ash_26266
I told u from my experience Iâm regretting that sheâs not in my life in my present time⌠I didnât respect her affection and presence when she was here but time made me know the true importance of her⌠So yes if you both love each other truly surely youâll regret in long run
Why did you think that uâll find better one?
Frost @ash_26266
You know what falling in love feels like⌠To know the person we love neednât be the perfect but still weâll stand with him/her in all his / her bad and good times any situationâŚ
I had proposals from some girls who were beautiful than her but my heart didnât justify it ⌠Its like i can leave anyone for her⌠Making her jealous with others will only make her sad but fulfilling her wishes will surely make others jealous and her proud of me and the bond we shareâŚ
I never loved her for her body or any selfishness but i just respected her presence⌠I liked it how she cared about me and supported me above all.
You know she was my best friend before i proposed herâŚand i did that solely on purpose that i donât ever lose her to someone else⌠I didnât even try to be romantic with her until she approached me⌠i never saw her in that way until then cuz her presence her voice her attention was enough for meâŚto make me feel protected that Iâm not gonna lose herâŚ
You can draw conclusions if weâve something in common and maybe justify your situation and future according to the choices youâre gonna make
We were in lockdown for 8 monthsâŚi too missed him a lot at those daysâŚwe only chatâŚwe longed to see each otherâŚbut now we all are normalâŚi am spending every day with himâŚat some photos we will be like a good coupleâŚat some photosâŚitâs not satisfying for meâŚto accept âŚi am getting thoughts. Like.will i get someone betterđ itâs easy to say u can love anyone poor rich black white âŚbut in reality i couldnt acceptâŚsorry to ask this qnâŚbut do u love ur gf if she is dark?not really prettyâŚ
You are talking like a philosopherđâŚi could feel that you miss her a lotâŚi hope that u ll meet her soonâŚand be a happy coupleđ
Frost @ash_26266
I was being like you at that momentâŚyou know love and liking are two different thingsâŚyou know its human nature to be greedy you canât help itâŚit was like if someone or something gives you too much attention you begin to disrespect itâŚyou donât know itâs worth for example we donât know how valuable is water đŚ until we donât even have a drop left to drinkâŚ
And yes I knew her sister from a long time too ⌠we sometimes texted and idk what happened to her she began to flirt with me and my gf mentioned she was prettier ⌠And i was like maybe i should choose the best one so i wonât regret. In future⌠Actually i was confused just like you⌠Her sister seemed more approaching and desirable⌠Donât think i proposed her sister or something but yes i hurt my gf cuz of her many times⌠I feel so bad about it now when i read our older chatsâŚ
As i told you love and liking are 2 different things⌠I loved her but i started to like her sister and it affected our relationship⌠I even once asked for a breakup but sheâs a sensible girl⌠She said donât rush ik you canât ever do this and she was right about itâŚ
I donât even feel like talking to her sister when sheâs not around now⌠Love is altogether a different feeling⌠Donât mix it with your desires and likings
Frost @ash_26266
You know what i told myself when i didnât saw my gf that whatever sheâs like i wonât leave her everâŚ
She might be pretty but sheâs not perfect and still i love her⌠sheâs got blood infectionsâŚ
She was diagnosed with a developing ulcer after 6 months in her uterus still i was with herâŚ
She had an operation for it when sheâs not with me and already Iâm so worried about herâŚ
Sheâs got sinus infection too but ik Iâll always be with her
I said na love and liking are two different things
If you love someone its not by their colour or accentâŚits by their presence
Liking and crush are just bodily things
Would u like to love a person whoâs cute and handsome as hrithik roshan but damn evil as some rapist or some criminal who just thinks girl as a material to satisfy needs??
Frost @ash_26266
Hahaha yesss i actually told you what i wonder myself when i miss her so i might have done phd in philosophy already in my mindđđ
Yeah thatâs right. Just human stupid mindđ¤Śââď¸i want to be matured and confident enough to take decisionsâŚits like a bipolar disorderâŚđi was so much luv with him one dayâŚthe next day i am likeâŚwill i get some one better? Am i settling for something low âŚcreating a small circle around me?đ
Frost @ash_26266
Yes yes same was with meâŚto get out of this feeling i would suggest you to take a break of a month or two from love and just be like friends⌠Youâll realise it if youâre really in love just like i did although itâs getting too much for me now âŚ
You know its not easy focusing on career while youâre depressed and that too when I have to act normal in front of everyone
No definitelyđI want to be my manâs first priority and i m already earned thatđI think i should accept him completelyâŚand thank u for sharing this with meâŚ
Frost @ash_26266
Iâm glad my experience helped you. â¤ď¸
ExactlyâŚi have friendsâŚbut couldnât tell them after 3 yrs relationship i am having this issueâŚtheyâll definitely judge meâŚactually i am doing my mbbsâŚi hope ur girl will recover from all health issuesâŚđ¤
Frost @ash_26266
Yea sure theyâll thatâs why i donât talk about this with much people⌠Iâm doing my btech tooâŚHope you Have a happy life ahead⌠Donât make stupid decisionsâŚthanks 𼰠may i hear from her soon
I convinced myselfâŚthat colour is not a thinfâŚits just a colourâŚi started to love himâŚi liked his character, i liked his taste about everythinf,his way of respecting parents,everythingâŚbut i ll get disturbed sometimws about his appearanxeâŚwhen ppl around me talk about things like that âŚi completely love himâŚbut when it comes to romance i couldnt feel itâŚi coudnt enjoy itâŚis this my mistake
Frost @ash_26266
Maybe youâll be able to love him more like a friend⌠Give yourself sometime⌠Never go with the choice with which youâll regret your whole life and yes never run behind cute faces too
He loves me a lotâŚI couldnt imagine moving on without himâŚbut i cant completely live at the momentâŚi donno wat to do seriouslyâŚi dont want to hurt himâŚ
Frost @ash_26266
Hey donât ever be in blind love⌠Cross check if heâs putting in the same efforts or trying to like you do for him⌠I told you already about what to look in boys⌠If he has those traits just donât lose him. If youâre his first prize over Everything then donât care what the world says
Frost @ash_26266
Anyone here?
littleThingz @r_aghavendra
Give it some nd donât excite
R u saying i need to wait until i love him completelyâŚitâs been 3 yrs alreadyâŚi am growing this and it is making me so much difficult to come out
love is just a beautiful illusion nowadays if you will think about it then gradually you will lose yourselfâŚ
