Well i don't know how to help you but i do wish that your efforts might change something in a good way

I really don't remember when i helped you, but your welcome.

I am no expert but my father behaves the same way as u expressed, please read about narcissistic personality disorder,  many people have it and if he does and is willing,  talk therapy helps as there is no medication for NPD. 

Also I would not suggest you to find out more about what's bothering your father,  rather your mother should speak with him, alone. 
He might not be comfortable speaking things to kids, my father never speaks to me about any of his worries, as most of his worries are created by him himself for which he doesn't want to take the blame.

Maybe something suffocating him too..have you ever tried to ask why he's behaving like this?

Stress

I'm tired of my dad telling me to kms

Family

Abusive fathers belong to a special place in hell.

Anxiety

so recently,i found out that my mom was cheating on my dad with her teacher from her school days...
i just had a doubt up till now,but nothing was confirmed but unfortunately today i just accidentally read my mom's texts to her teacher and found out that my doubt's were not just doubts but indeed it was the truth.....
im 20 yrs old and im not a kid to not know what exactly is happening here...
but the problem is if i do question them about this then my entire family might collapse because her teacher helped us out when our family was in tight spot....
and moreover i dont think someone as soft as my dad would take it if he finds out that his wife is cheating on him.....
what should i do now?

I'm feeling unloved and unappreciated by my dad. He always tries to get on my nerves whenever I'm going through something. He always makes fun of me, insults me, yells at me or calls me names a lot of times. Today, I was just talking with my mom about something related to college and suddenly he came in and called me a failure and stupid. He said lots of hurtful things that I don't want to recall.. to the point that I felt physically sick. I couldn't breathe as soon as we started fighting after. I'm just dealing with a violent.. rude and ignorant dad. He causes me lots of anxiety and I don't feel comfortable being around him in this house. He made me feel so shitty about myself even when I try to just be nice to him. I feel so alone

Lonely

How do you deal with physical abuse from your father? I'm a 19 year old guy dependent on my parents for my needs. Every time when my father has to give me money or spend it for me he starts a fight and he spends only when he no other choice. When I ask him to money to travel to college he beats me in the morning. He has his absolute dictatorship here. He doesn't allow me or restricts my freedom to a maximum extent so that I stay dependent on him and have to be submissive and obedient. I have been deprived of choices in my career due to his decision on what I have to study.He is abusive,  violent and arrogant by nature.My mother is very much accustomed to this toxic behavior and has adapted to it.But I cannot deal with this violent behavior.I started attending offline classes so that we don't clash during his online training and to stay away from home in order to avoid fights.He has extreme anger issues and struggles with money management. I cannot discuss about this with anyone .I cannot complain about this to anyone no one I know is capable or willing to go against  him to support me.His decisionsare often hasty, insensitive and is adamant .It has always been like I obey him I get what he thinks is best for me.He has only provided me with bare minimum and basic necessities in life.I agree that parents do struggle a lot to fulfill their children's needs but here He decides what I need.Anything for that matter. Right from my haircut to the color of clothes I wear has to be his choice-this is not because I want to be in any indecent attire or behavior according to the society but because he wants it to coincide with his idea..I am abused mentally, physically and emotionally almost everyday. I don't want to be beaten by father at this age and I definitely want to revolt or retaliate but my mother thinks that is wrong and everyone else is of a similar opinion. The abuse has traumatized me and affects my overall functioning in other aspects. Even when there's no abuse I have constant anger with in me about the behavior in me I just can't forgive or forget but I do not want to do anything or even care about the persons existence at all. Everytime I try to complain about the toxic behavior of his my mother tries to draw similarities with me and him which can not even be considered to be similar or relevant. There is extreme criticism for every action of minr. They have instilled so much of self hate in me.I have myself ,my achievements are never appreciated and I don't understand why some people think that it is disrespectful to not allow an elderly person to disrespect you. I am treated badly and I'm told Everytime I eat that I am eating from his earning and to have an opinion I should earn .the hypocrisy is that the person was dependent and only started to earn in his early 30s.I have to apologize every time even if I am right so I hate myself more than anyone I have ever met. I am always reminded of my mistakes from the past and it is used to control as they know it is a trigger to me. 

My father confuses anger with kindness. Growing up, I've always been closer to my mother as my father has always had a bad and short temper. I started to realize how talking to him about my feelings became extremely difficult as a teenager. He will never understand - I repeat to myself everytime I think about blurting everything out to him. I know this is bad, but I've bottled up my thoughts about him and our relationship for so long. 

The way he treats me, I don't feel loved. Unlike most girls who see their father as a role model or seek for a man like him - I don't and I never have. In fact, I don't want to be like my father - toxic and abusive. He doesn't realise what he says or does really hurts me , even the littlest most pettiest things. I don't know how to talk to him because we've never had that equation from the beginning. At times, he can be very affectionate and nice - when he gets mad - he doesn't realise what he says like most people. But the damage is already done, and the next day he pretends like a fight/argument never happened - I don't know how to act because no matter how much I want to hold a grudge against him for being mad at me, I cant. So I move on too. He says to me that he yells at me out of love, for my own wellbeing, he wants to see me do well, etc but I feel that he is confusing his anger with kindness and using that as a justification as the emotional abuse I've had to deal with for years. I know its normal to have fights with your parents but recently, I feel that I have reached my limit with my father. I feel happy when he's not around in the house, more than when he is. This is an unconscious feeling, I don't want to feel like this.I want to love him like all children love their father. I don't feel like talking to him at all nowadays and even he is starting to realise that. Infact today, he came into my room to ask about my day and how my studies are going - but it feels like a burden to me when he does. I want to amend our relationship before I leave to university...but how...

Emotional Abuse

I am feeling really frustrated. I really need to rant Or I will go crazy
All my father talks Abt 24*7 is Abt the same thing. He hates a political leader so much that he is legit obsessed with him. That is all he talks Abt the entire day with everyone. Even when a conversation is far away from that topic he just find a way to bring him into the conversation. He has nothing else to speak Abt but just that. The lockdown is making it really hard for me. My mom and I have tried to explain it to him but it's absolutely of no use; he takes it it on his ego and doesn't talk to us for 3-4 days then everything is back to normal. The cursing and hate goes on and on and on. There is no normal conversation with him. He just can't talk Abt any other topic. When we talk Abt something else he is just quite and on his phone not bothered at all.

Frustration

i don’t understand my dad. He’s so aggressive & angry all the time. He constantly shits on everything us kids do - yet expects us to willing want us to do “fun” things with him. 

Ive never had a day where my dad hasn’t ruined the mood. I’ve never felt the need or want to hang out with because I always expect the worst. 

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