I am not feeling good from the last 2 years I think I am soon going into depression because of my family and people around me I have completed my graduation in 2019 and till now I am preparing for competitive exam and I have not cleared a single exam because of that my family is forcing me to do household work they think that I am just wasting my time but to be very honest they dont let me study what should I do
Soorya @soorya
Have you tried talking to them or do you have any relative or family friend that is very understanding in natureβ¦ Try talking it with them an open up about your problems with themβ¦ Keeping it locked in yourself will make things only worse donβt do that yourselfβ¦ There is different opportunities out thereβ¦ Donβt just give upβ¦ Keep trying youβll find a way to solve itβ¦ I believe in youβ¦ You should tooβ¦ You are strong π€
yes but they are not very supportive and they are forcing me to do marriage because they think I cant do study and all I am giving my 100 percent but they are not helping me in anything
Soorya @soorya
Do you have anyone that can convince them otherwiseβ¦ Or if nothing at all is working out the you can consider moving out or applying for jobs far from them for the time being at leastβ¦
No I dont have anyone to support my decisions I wanted to do master because I dont want to ruin my life but my dad is not ready and he has already told me that he dont want to waste money on me
Soorya @soorya
Have you tried to see any other available jobs with your qualifications through your friends or through any adβ¦
Soorya @soorya
If you acquire a pretty decent job you can study for masters along with your job and youβll be at least a little financially independentβ¦ Also you could be able to stay in any working womenβs hostel or somethingβ¦
my parents are strict because of that I cant change my city right now they have told me to do job in my hometown only and staying at home also sucks
Soorya @soorya
For now I guess there doesnβt seem any way for you but donβt give up hope yetβ¦ An opportunity will be there and when you find utilise itβ¦ And since they allow you to do job in hometown do itβ¦ Save up some moneyβ¦ And donβt stop searching for better jobsβ¦ Also try to make your mother at least understand what your going throughβ¦ Donβt give upβ¦ Keep tryingβ¦ Youβll find a wayβ¦ And if you canβt stay at home try going to library for your preparationsβ¦ Or a part time jobβ¦ Just search every possible place donβt let any stone unturnedβ¦ We never know what might help usβ¦ So keep on tryingβ¦ Try to get someone in your family on your side too for nowβ¦ Okayβ¦ Be optimistic donβt lose faithβ¦
Anonymous @ilovenutella123
Move out !!! Its a very toxic place you are in!!! Even Iβm preparing for competetive exams and I took a drop year, but my family never treated me like this. If moving out is not an option maybe you should spend your day outside your house maybe in a library studying. You wonβt be able to study in such a negative environment
I think you are right but I dont know what to do because its very hard for me because no one understands me even my dad is so abusive he sometimes slaps me or give me taunts I am a 23 year old girl and sometimes its very difficult for me to survive in that house but I dont have any other option because I am unemployed
Anonymous @ilovenutella123
Straight up refuse to do any work, stand up to your abusive dad, he needs to be put in his place. How about your mom? Is she supportive?
No one is supportive and I dont know how to focus on studies because I am a overthinker and day by day everything is getting messed up in my life
Anonymous @ilovenutella123
Ig then maybe you should start looking for a job, then slowly you start saving up and move out thatβs the only option, you can work and prepare for competitive exams together, itβs difficult but I believe in you, you can do this!!!
It is likely you are preparing for govt jobs. Quit that for some time look for private sector opportunities. register on naukri.com /moster.com. Give interviews get offer letter then tell your dad. Likely he will allow. At least he will not be able taunt you anymore even if he denies. Once you start earning you will get confidence and attitude of family will also change. focus on your goal and not the act and words of parents. Counter the negative env by creating an positive one for you like Listening to positive talk on you tube reading self help books
I think you are right thankyou so much for this