I am in this long-distance relationship from two years, I love him and he loves me , we are best friends since school. I still has to stay at home for another 3-4 months until my office opens and he is another city doing his work. he can’t come to our hometown because he feels very unproductive here and i get it. but now he doesn’t want to do long distance , he wants us to stay friends until my office opens and i can be there. but i just can’t do this way, i tried to understand and i knew what all he is going through and he is not able to balance. but i can’t stop thinking that its my fault he is taking this step because of the way I am in a relationship. He has made it pretty clear that he can’t try long-distance anymore. He loves me , he doesn’t want to fuck around, We will get married some day and I know everything is pretty much fine in our lives, But i still feel this void inside me.
I think you have to trust the process. Maybe the “being friends” phase will make him, infact both of you realize the importance of your relationship. I know it’ll hurt at first but you’ll get through this. This past year has been hard on all of us, we just have to be courageous to face all the problems that the next day has to offer to us
Don’t beat yourself up. It happens, u both should take ur time and deserve mental peace. Just picture it this way after some years both of u sitting on a couch, married, watching ur fav movie, hand in hand, happy and peaceful. Now ask urself will this all be worth what u are going through right now?