I am in my early 40s (male), I left home when I was 15 and I have been on my own since. about 16 years I met my best friend Kim (woman). I love her to bits and I consider her my family. She has been with me through hard times and I too have stood with her through trying times.
She is lesbian and that allowed to trust that we were meant to be friends and nothing else and we have both always respected that boundary. Two years ago we both realised that we actually loved each other more than we thought and we slept together. This happened a couple of times until I stopped it. She asked me not to contact her because she could not deal with the emotions involved.
I have been suffering for two years, I miss her so much. I miss my friend and family. I don’t know if I should contact her and try to repair our friendship. I understand how hurt she must have been by my actions.
This affects my days, my work. I am losing self-esteem and i feel useless most of the times. I am not looking for sympathy or sex. I just want my friend back so much. She means a lot to me. I don’t know what to do.
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