Zairish Verma @potterhead_...
I am in a relationship since 2 yrs ,it was my first relationship . He was surrounded by many problems …I gave my all to help him emotional ,physically ,mentally ,…the most you could even expect your wife to give that much . I was there with him in all his problems ,said yes to everything he asked for, said to me .I always worked on the theory that you give your best without expecting and the other will reciprocate because they will know your worth. The problem came when I saw nothing coming from his side …I didnt expect and moved on that when he’ll understand he will reciprocate but no use …now the situation is he don’t even do the bare minimum and fight everytime I tell him my point of view …he never listens to what I want and always does what he wants and that too he will ask me what do you want and if I’ll say something else of what he wants to listen he’ll fight and if I’ll say the same to avoid fights …he’ll say see I did what you wanted .there are many such examples like these. If he is sad he’ll misbehave and if he is happy want to flirt he’ll do that and if I say what he did earlier he would say …the only thing I do is “nautanki” which he don’t care about and is fed up of it.i keep on getting panic attack everyday and when I call him he only blocks me even in that miserable situation telling these are all acting
I feel miserable ,tortured ,used
In these yrs I have given him soo much that I am not able to think anything apart of him ,I have lost my confidance on men and also me that I am worthy of getting something good
Also when he talks to me properly I am flown away and ready to forget all these torture he did ro me and again the cycle continues
He is your boyfriend or husband
If you keep doing this for behaviour and then started wondering that it’s real, then it will be. Real. Speak to him properly and make him understand your point of view. Regarding panic attacks, take responsibility of ur life and fix it with help of counsellor, parents or naturally by understanding what causes it and how can u do improve it. If u r rowing a boat, keep it stable, then only you expect anything from other. Do well
I can understand your situation, am same as you in my first relationship. Actually first relationship we never ever want to lose or leave, that’s where the problem starts… you are perfect example of a good partner, know your worth and please stay away from such guy. If you want to talk , am here, I can surely answer your questions that you must have in your mind, cuz I know at this point we deal with so many questions… am here you can talk to me to know your worth
Heyy