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I am in a relationship from 3 years. Its good but he gets insecure a lot. First it was my friend ( who was also someone i called brother), I thought he will get over it but it took me a year to convince him, that he is not a wrong person. He did understand but its been a loop, its one friend or the another but now he is insecure about my ex best friend, she and I were very close ( like the bestest of friends) then things happened and we drift apart, but now I am trying to build my bond with her and he wants me to cut off contacts for my mental sanity because according to HIM she is not a good person. Its been 4-5 people he has been insecure about till now.

Is this healthy? There are times where I feel stuck. What to do?

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Abdullah Momin @abbydeliri...

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The healthiness of the relationship depends on both of your opinions, how you look at things and what you feel is wrong or rightโ€ฆ
Communicate with himโ€ฆwhy is she a bad personโ€ฆlook at his perspective tooโ€ฆand share yours tooโ€ฆboth can come to a point in the middle.

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I have communicated. We came a middle point where he said you can talk but donโ€™t tell me about it but then he saw a notification from her in my phone and then he saw a instagram story so he is assuming and then suddenly he said, its been a lot. Choose either her or me.

But the sad part is i am not even talking to her a lot, there have been awkward silences only but I donโ€™t want to cut her off completely.

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Anonymous
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Why is he insecure abt a girl ? This guy seems like a red banner , not just a red flag

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Anonymous
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Because they were friends too and she did some things that hurt me, we both actually did hurt each other and now I am trying to fix things because she matter to me and he is like why are you doing this? Are you weak? But according to me its not weakness, I am just trying to regain my friendship with my best friend.

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Anonymous
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Why do I get a feeling he liked her at some point

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Anonymous
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No he didnโ€™t.

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Anonymous
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Bruhhh he did . Trust me . U and her getting together is the ultimate humiliation for him . Thatโ€™s why heโ€™s against it .

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Anonymous
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Things like what ?

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Anonymous
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Maybe he is humiliated because she chose me over him and he do not have a lot of friends and maybe he misses her as a friend but I donโ€™t think he used to like her.

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Anonymous
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She made new friends that made me too insecure. I abandoned her out of insecurity and she got hurt. Apparently she hanged out with those guys because i couldnt give her enough time and she felt lonely

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Anonymous
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How do u know this

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Anonymous
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Insecurity of what

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Anonymous
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Because it happened in front of me. I got insecure that she doesnโ€™t need me ANYMORE.

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Anonymous
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Who were these new ppl

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Anonymous
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My other friends.

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