I am in a relationship from 3 years. Its good but he gets insecure a lot. First it was my friend ( who was also someone i called brother), I thought he will get over it but it took me a year to convince him, that he is not a wrong person. He did understand but its been a loop, its one friend or the another but now he is insecure about my ex best friend, she and I were very close ( like the bestest of friends) then things happened and we drift apart, but now I am trying to build my bond with her and he wants me to cut off contacts for my mental sanity because according to HIM she is not a good person. Its been 4-5 people he has been insecure about till now.
Is this healthy? There are times where I feel stuck. What to do?
Abdullah Momin @abbydeliri...
The healthiness of the relationship depends on both of your opinions, how you look at things and what you feel is wrong or right…
Communicate with him…why is she a bad person…look at his perspective too…and share yours too…both can come to a point in the middle.
I have communicated. We came a middle point where he said you can talk but don’t tell me about it but then he saw a notification from her in my phone and then he saw a instagram story so he is assuming and then suddenly he said, its been a lot. Choose either her or me.
But the sad part is i am not even talking to her a lot, there have been awkward silences only but I don’t want to cut her off completely.
Why is he insecure abt a girl ? This guy seems like a red banner , not just a red flag
Because they were friends too and she did some things that hurt me, we both actually did hurt each other and now I am trying to fix things because she matter to me and he is like why are you doing this? Are you weak? But according to me its not weakness, I am just trying to regain my friendship with my best friend.
Why do I get a feeling he liked her at some point
No he didn’t.
Bruhhh he did . Trust me . U and her getting together is the ultimate humiliation for him . That’s why he’s against it .
Things like what ?
Maybe he is humiliated because she chose me over him and he do not have a lot of friends and maybe he misses her as a friend but I don’t think he used to like her.
She made new friends that made me too insecure. I abandoned her out of insecurity and she got hurt. Apparently she hanged out with those guys because i couldnt give her enough time and she felt lonely
How do u know this
Insecurity of what
Because it happened in front of me. I got insecure that she doesn’t need me ANYMORE.
Who were these new ppl
My other friends.