Prithu Kamra @upbeat_oyste...
I am in a long distance relationship of 7 approx 8 months. First 2 months were really good he was doing everything to make me trust when i needed time to trust him but 2 month some problems arise in his home and he was not really involved that much in the relationship i supported him at that time but after that he didn’t even care about my feelings always like please understand na ki ghar pe problems hai please smjha kr mein itna time nhi de skta mujhe bhi kaam hote hai mere pass bhi responsibility hai it continued till 6th month and i was really fed up because i was already in bad situation because of my mental health and my college placement and also at home and also with it was like i was the only one who was in a relationship not him and after 7 month anniversary i did breakup with him but he came crying that sorry i was wrong ki mujhe lg raha tha ki mein apni ex pe cheat to nhi kr raha or is relationship mein mujhe achese pta hai ki tu hi boht jyada pyaar krti thi mein nhi krta tha itna but ab mein sb shi krdunga but after just 15 days it again started because of his situation at home and i am now at a breaking point i started having suicidal thoughts because of everything please tell me am i selfish to breakup with him when he is having serious problems at home but i also can’t continue i am literally not able to i just want to have peace in my life please tell me what should i do?
I’m sorry to say, but I feel that he is in still in touch with his ex or talking terms with some other person.
I might be wrong, but this is what I felt.
Prithu Kamra @upbeat_oyste...
Actually i am sure that he is not in touch with her but i don’t if he still have feelings for her or someone else
Ya, I’m sorry.
But, I think it is only right if you focus on yourself and your mental health. You can’t be there for someone when you’re not doing well yourself.
Take your time, and work on yourself first.
All the best
Yess and i am doing that now
Nooo
You aren’t doing anything wrong bb
If he wanted to he would do all that
Agar woh yeh soch rha tha that he cheated on his ex and all that means woh uske baare b sochta tha…and that means he wasn’t really into you completely
I know hamara mann ni maanta but yehi Sach hai
And you know what people discuss family problems with their partners and not give time aisa ni hota hai
You aren’t selfish any time yaar
Your are prioritizing yourself and your mental health what’s wrong in that
And yaad rakhna men be crying begging anything still lie to you
So choose yourself babe
And pehle 2 months m sab ache hi hote h yaar
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You should Break up for your sake , it’s mentally draining to be in a one sided relationship. There is a saying “if he wanted, he would” so no matter what problem he is in rn he should perform his duty towards you.
But will i not be blamed if i leave him in a difficult situation? and i also have such deep feelings for him but it is so draining for me to continue
Aren’t u in a bad situation?
Girls have this problem only that they stay to support till the end until that person leaves us
Chose yourself buddy
No people pleasing
He didn’t even talk to you properly while u only wanted to help
Chose your mental health
Yess that’s what i am trying to do now i just blocked him i just want ki mein itni strong rhu ab ki uske pass vaapis na jao i don’t want to be in that situation anymore
Yes bro
U deserve to be loved and supported equally
And self love comes with hard decisions yaarr
Don’t even think about committing suicide because of him your life is too precious. Get out of this relationship.
I don’t do that every day but sometimes it just so much that happens that i just feel like it would be good
From your post I feel he is not interested in you or you can say he is just passing time, but he came back because he wants a shoulder, a emotional backup. That’s what nowadays people do. His reason of ex was lame, you should not give him any other chances. Leave him and choose mental peace
Do you think i did not do that actually i was already communicating with him about all of this from literally months but at the end vo yhi kehta tha ki aa gyi drama krne firse tujhe bs mauke chahiye ldai krne ke to ye kitni baar sunnu mein he doesn’t even want to listen to my problems now
Maybe this is the trend followed in this generation…exactly the same situation happened with me…i still couldn’t move on from him, but when your presence or absence doesn’t affect him, there is no point how hard you try…so just give it a pause and work on yourself…i know its hard but for the sake of your mental health…don’t try to forget, it will hurt you more…just embrace your feelings and go with the flow
Yess i am working on myself now my placements are going on so i am focusing on there now i don’t have time to always think about if he is right for me or not i can’t do that my whole life so i am trying to move on it will be difficult but i can do that
