I am in a long distance relationship from 6 years now. We're planning to marry but his parents are not agreeing to the fact that we're perfect for each other also they believe in caste like it's the only thing that matters to live in a society. Initially, my parents were also against our marriage but they understand my love for him but now the boy and his parents both agreeing to the fact that we should go for court marriage but I want to do it the Indian way. Not the levish one but atleast with all rituals.

Religion is same but we belong to different state and caste as well. Also his parents aren't willing to make their move. I don't understand why do they care about society that much. 

I totally agree with you. But the problem that seems to be here is that his family is playing smart here. They are not willing to come to my state but suggesting to get married with legal procedures. Then later on they will give the reception party at their place. Why? What about my parents and their dreams and my friends and relatives ??

My father is waiting for his father's call since August. His father didn't responded due to obvious reasons. But now all of a sudden his father has come up with the solution that you guys should get married through court later we'll have a reception for the guests! They are still not happy with us getting married. They are doing this for their son's sake. Nothing else.

Confusion

I am very nervous and confused. I am not good at making good decisions and this one is Life decision. So How do you decide as 'he is the one'?


 As Today came the day finally, I have to talk to this guy, my family found suitable for me. It'll be a v ideo ca ll as he is working in another country. I was avoiding the topic of marriage n all, but as typical Indian family, my one also wants me to marry at the right age, and now is the right time acc to them, as I am working since 2 yrs now. But me is very unsure of my life Only, let be the "marriage"


I never wanted to marry, even I told them I want to live with them only, nobody else, they also know I can't. Although I live in another city for my work, but my family's home is my home. I don't have a good paying job too, and I want to focus on my career only now as well as on self-growth and healing and change my life as I was in depress ion. 

I have always lived alone, no friends, and never been in relationship. Ik there would be problems in my relationship.  Idk even what to talk to this guy. My father talked with him on vid eo c all first, he liked him, he found him nice and understanding one n all, so now my family and me going to talk to him. Idk even why and what do I talk and how to decide he is the one and he must be having his expectations as well😐







Marriage

I'm in my final year of graduation, and I've never ever been in a relationship. I never even sneaked out to meet a guy, not touched, held hands, hugged a guy. But the day before yesterday I lied to my parents and went on an ice cream date with a guy I met on tinder an hour ago. He was completely safe and somehow he is from my college. But while driving back home his iPhone slipped from his pants pocket and broke. I was really traumatized that he'll blame it on me ( because that's what people in my life have treated me)
But he instead gave me headpats and said "it's not at all your fault, how can it be your fault?"
I kept apologizing (ik it's a bad habit) but after this date he replies to msg not so actively, mostly he replies late. But he makes sure I don't feel bad. I think he is just replying to me because I don't feel bad about it. 
Today I wanted to meet him in clg but I didn't have the guts to tell him. I feel I'm being too dependent on him just because I hugged him while he was driving or just because he was being good to me or we had a bond doesn't always mean the guy is genuinely interested in you. Sometimes guys act kind and make you laugh. I cherish the moments I had with him, the way he asked me to keep talking while driving or else he'll tickle me, and when he asked me twice or thrice if I'm cold and he finally gave me his jacket when I was cold while he was rubbing his arm, the time I rested my head on his shoulder and he nudged back his head and asked me if I was fine, the way he kept his hand on mine(I was at the back seat of the bike and had hugged him while my left hand was on his stomach and my head rested on his right side of shoulder) and asked if I was crying and Said it's okay it's not at all your fault these are probably the best moments of my life 🥺 I want to live it again but maybe he doesn't want me or his life is totally cool and full of people that's why these things are pretty common and normal for him.
The only place we're connected is Instagram and I'm planning to deactivate to run away from him, I don't want to put my self respect down by msging him and him replying when he feels like...Ik it won't be too hard for him to locate me in college or somewhere else idk what to do.I know it's definitely not love but I loved the moments how should I tell him that I want to spend more and more time with him act this clingy but I can't it's bad being dependent on someone else.

3am Thoughts

all thesse nights i was up worrying abt him and he was in love wit a girl who dont even like him. he wasted a whole relationship on some bs. he had me crying worried and feeling drained. i liked him so much and i did so much to make him happy and i get this in return? he a whole bitch who cant keep a relationship bc hes scared. he needs to grow up

Boyfriend

Hello everyone,

Sharing my feelings here after a long time.. 1.5 years back I posted some of my thoughts with you where I was struggling with my love life (you can read my previous thoughts on my profile so you will be more clear with my current thought) but today I'm at very different stage of life.

I'm living with my boyfriend from last 1 year, yes we are in a live-in relationship though we are still facing some issues with families but I think they will accept us eventually coz they have got to know that we are not going to live without each other...WE ARE SO IN LOVE!!!

Everything is good and going well between us, he trusts me and understand me now, he loves me more, we spend a lot of time together- watching movies, having fun, party, outing n all.... We are very much stable now mentally, physically, financially, we overcame from all those things happened in past.

So here's the main part of my thought today....

Everything was perfectly fine but then few days ago I got to know something which I never knew what exactly happened...so I heard call recordings in his phone of that time when we were struggling with our love life... I wasn't having phone with me that time coz my parents took it from me and we were not in touch for almost 2 months (he was somehow aware about it)....so in those recordings he was insulting me he told those things to his friends and cousins which were just between us like I use to tell him everything about my life about my family my parents my job my past etc. every small detail of my daily life but he disclosed everything to them......coz he thought I cheated on him and I purposely left.

Rather than waiting for me or understanding me he did all this and at that point of time I was lonely and depressed.... I didn't knew he's gonna tell everything to everyone. I wasn't even aware about those things that were happening behind my back. Even when I came back we met he didn't tell me everything I just knew some parts of it and I forgotten it coz all I wanted was to be with him.
 
When I was a kid my mom had an affair and I never shared that feeling with anyone coz I was afraid....but when I was in love I told him about it I shared with him that how I use to feel that time, how hard it was for me to share. But he disclosed it and told to his friend stating "maa hi aisi hai toh vo b aisi hi hogi na" he judged me on that😑

I really don't know what to feel after that coz the person I love, the person whom I trust alot, the person who's everything to me....did this???? How???? Why????? Can't we talk about our feelings with the person we love without any  judgements. I spoke to him about it and he said I wasn't in a stable state it just came out of my mouth in anger.

From that day I'm not feeling comfortable sharing anything with him and that's why I chose to share my story here, coz it really helped me earlier and I hope it will help me throughout my life.

Please guys share ur thoughts on this and help me what should I do??

I've been in love with my best friend for the last 22 years. Never had the courage to express my feelings. He got married, divorced and now is remarrying. I want to be happy for him, I want him to have all the joy in the world but it pains my heart to hear him talk about his new love, their plans to adopt a dog and have a child, and move to Sweden. Can't help but wonder - did we ever have a shot?

Relationships

I have tried talking to many new people, but nobody is quite like him. The comfort and safety I felt with him are unmatched, and I haven't been able to find that with anyone else. Lately, I've been struggling to focus on my work, and my productivity has plummeted because I can't function properly without him. Deep down, I know he's not good for me, but he's like a drug, and I feel like I'm in dire need of him. My life has come to a standstill without him, and I despise this overwhelming feeling.

Exhausted

i feel lost, i have been feeling this since quite a long time, i use to have friends now i dont,
i have a boyfriend, but i dont think he understands me, he does not make me feel wanted or special, like one is supposed to treat his girlfriend, he is a narcissistic person but i try to adjust according to his needs but i also want to someone to fulfill my needs, pamper me, make me feel special but he does none but i still love him regardless of his behaviour with me, i cant ever get mad at him because if i do he will never come back to solve the matter and just leave it, and we wont talk ever again, i apologies for his mistake too, i just need a partner who will understand me love me, i feel so lonely and deperessed everyday, he doesnt knows this, i told him once but he did not care. i wanna feel good about myself. i have no one to talk too, lost all my friends, cant talk to my guy friends because my boyfriend has a problem. but he doesnt gives me the time either, its effecting my mental health so much. im crying everyday.

Lonely

Had a toxic relationship
Emotional turmoil was too much for me while he lived happily and had multiple relationships at a time and always said that I was the only one in his life while sending me screenshot of different girls, who he said we're is ex, telling him that they loved him or proposing him for marriage. 
Went through the on-off thing many times
Told him that soon I will block him
For the past couple of months had negligible contact. Was able to move forward and think about myself. Be happy in my life. 
Then he msged saying he suffered heart attack and I felt bad and cried a lot but didn't keep msging him as I didn't want to get attached again. 
Yesterday he msged saying he is better now, taking rest and now I was free to block him as I wanted to and was waiting for him to feel better. 
Now that he told me that I could block him I don't want to do that. 
I know this is toxic and it drains me and affects me a lot yet I don't know why I cannot remove him from my life and live like he doesn't exist. 
Any help on this? 

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