I am going through hell… please help.
I am 29 years old girl… I was supposed to get married on 25th April… (arrange marriage) but marriage is broken because of Family disagreements…
My family is overthinker, and very much possessive of me, they want the best for me, they think too much over little little things and get tensed… whereas boy’s family was happy go Lucky, bindass,little carefree… Boy was working in merchant Navy, so when this risha came he was onboard… we started talking to each other on 15th oct 21… our marriage was fixed on 23rd November itself… we fell in love with each other… initially also my mother and his mother had a jhagda but somehow they agreed upon this marriage… the boy was in continuous contact with my family from Ship itself and assuring them not to worry, that he will take care of me… he is a genuine guy but he doesn’t have those communication skills as he is antisocial, stays in the middle of the sea for a long time… after his father he has taken full responsibility of his family… there wasn’t a problem with the guy… my mother had been very aggressive tone since beginning with them… my father and brother toh dint even try to participate in any conversation with his family… and finally last month the same thing happened, his mother demanded just to visit our relatives and my family denied saying we are way past this now… his family actually initially told that they had least contact with their relatives and now their relatives wanted to meet my relatives… where my family denied where my mother ended up saying the Guy, himmat hai toh samne aa…
His family cancelled the wedding saying attitude of my family and my family members cancelled it saying this family has no respect, manners , carefree behaviour and bla bla…
We both were in a devastating state… our families were so on lit that no-one was listening… My family is telling me now ki if he would have really loved you he would have come and his family is vice versa telling him… it was a arrange marriage not a love marriage…
Guy told me even if I marry you secretly, your future will be very difficult as I won’t be here 24*7… I don’t want to put you in risk of family drama, social status… we both decided to stick to our families because we both love our families…
The pain is huge for me… I am still traumatized… both the families dint like each other yet they push us towards each other and end moment pe now they are saying it was just a rishta… forget it…
Now my parents have registered my name in a matrimony, when I said ki aap log dekho koi pasand aaya, aap log ko accha laga then come to me and show me… over that they are saying you need to get over it ASAP, you need to hate the guy… he has deceived us… they are mentally pressuring me to hate him as he has deceived us by not taking a stand for you… he should have come leaving his family… and if you go marry him then don’t see our faces again in life…
Everyday I am trying to get out of it… it will take me some time as I am traumatized… shaadi tooti hai meri… how could my family expect me to get out it immediately… they be like you should smile, you should be happy… our happiness lies in you… if you’re sad we are sad… think about us… what the fuck is wrong with them…
All I have asked them my time and space but they are ending up saying the guy is influencing you and he has created hatred between you and us… he is responsible for everything… hum tere bhale ke liye bol rahe kyu ki duniya humne tere se jyada dekhi hai…
Please advise if I am doing anything wrong or my family is going wrong… the overpossesive ness is killing me… I am feeling like to run away from my own house… waiting for my office to start… I need some mental peace… I am dying inside…
Pehele bacche ko candy dikhao aur fir cheen lo … khel hai kya yeh sab families ke liye…please tell me if i am wrong… my future looks so dark to me…
