I am feeling sacred. I am gonna start working at my previous university where me and my ex use to study together. Everyone knows about us dating all over professor and junior’s and I’m scared that when I go there for work and he comes to know about that, He would try to meet me and talk about the break up and everything (we broke up on phone during lockdown) or might create some scene at the university and spoil my reputation and make me look like the bad person in the relationship. I have been really low on self confidence and also have social anxiety and I fear people will judge me constantly and I am scared. I have been an introvert all my life it is difficult for me to make friends and on top of that I feel insecure because of my weight issues. I constantly feel that people will talk behind my back and judge me. I am scared that he would come and make a scene there and I might loose the job because of that or I might have to go with him and talk about all that so he doesn’t create any scene at university and he would make me miserable again. He had done that before, taken advantage of my social anxiety and treated me like shit. I know the more I will be scared of him the more he would take advantage of it but what should I do I am really scared and insecure, how can I stop felling this? I can’t have 100% confidence within few days it will take time to built I know. Any advice please I can really use it.
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