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@joshandcharlotte

I am feeling pretty worthless right now. Iโ€™m a stay at home dad whose son is falling behind and Iโ€™m getting too overwhelmed lately to even try to help him some days. I joined the marine corps straight out of high school, and got a job immediately until my wife could move with my to attend college. I havenโ€™t been stationary very long for my entire life, and now that I am, I hate it. I feel like a failure. Iโ€™m a bad teacher and at times an inattentive parent.

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Heyy @joshandcharlotte,
Youโ€™re not a bad parent. I know you think you are because youโ€™re unable to live up to what is expected of you but the thing is before you are anybodyโ€ฆbefore you are a dad, a marine, a husband, a teacherโ€ฆyou are an individual. Your life has changed dramatically because civilian life isnโ€™t the same as your previous life and it takes time and conscious effort to adapt to it. Again, easier said than done, but please donโ€™t be so hard on yourself. Youโ€™re trying and willing to improve, to do better. And that matters more than anything else. Iโ€™d suggest that you take one day at a time, and one sphere of your life at a time. Together, it can be overwhelming for anyone.
If you can, try to seek some therapy to adapt to regular life, there would be therapists you specialise in understanding navigating regular life as a marine.

Moreover, you mentioned how being stationary is something you hate. Then make sure you do something to change that and to create a new, active routine for yourself (unless you mean being on land and not sailing)
You could volunteer, join a gym, join a group of runners/cyclists whatever you like. Make sure to take care of yourself, your mood, your well-being because that will play a huge role in being able to cope with all the stress. In general, being a parent is so hard anyway. So remember, youโ€™re doing your best, and that is what matters and you need to take care of yourself in the process of taking care of everyone around you.

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