I am confused.
I have this roomie who is really close to me but she happens to enjoy… Let’s say… Judy’s company but I dislike Judy because she told that my boyfriend looks like a “paanwala”… It might sound funny to her but it’s not to me… So once my roomie called Judy to sit with us in our bench and then she knew that I disliked her yet she did that… So I avoided her for few hours… She took a half day leave… She took her bag and went… I ran after her down the stairs and hugged her and cried saying I am sorry… Few people were staring… She said… Why are you creating a scene in a rude way? I felt really bad maybe it hurt my ego or something… Because I rarely say sorry to people… I wonder if I did the right thing?
Hey,
I think anyone would get offended if they had to hear something like that about their significant other. Based on this incident, and this incident alone, I don’t think you did anything wrong. Your roommate really didn’t have to leave just because you ignored her a little. You did the right thing to apologise to her, such that if incase she left because she was hurt because of you, at least you cared enough to say sorry. All you can do is try to ask her why she’s so upset, so much so that she felt the need to leave. But you have to stand up for your own people. So, I really don’t think there’s anything wrong in that.
Thank you for taking out your time to read it and response… It really made my day☺
I’m so glad!!! ^_^
Standing up to your values and your boyfriend does not make you a bad person.
Everyone has a different take on humor. If your friend’s friend has a certain type of humor (which maybe be hurtful to someone, like calling your friend with that name), you can dealt it in 2 ways.
1. Use the same humor on her . Which you/ or your friend may/maynot not like.
2. Or let you friend know if this behavior is repeated.
I hope your friend understands you in whichever way you choose.
you said sorry which shows you value you friendship but if your friend does not do show you equal respect, i think you might need to maintain some distance and see where the friendship stands.
