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I am bit confused about the situation. What should i do? I am in relationship but my parents wants me to get married now but my boyfriend doesn’t want to at that time . He wants 5 more years to get stable and also we are from different caste so it is difficult for us to be together. He makes me understand that we should not hurt our parents as he is not financially stable at that time so he wants me to not get serious or not to hurt my self . When ever i try to talk to him about this situation he got stressed . How should i deal with this?

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Talk with him clearly if he really wants to get married with you or not. If yes then you both have to speak up to your parents and his parents.

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He is not ready yet

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Anonymous
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But 5 years us very long period and no parents can wait 5 years so you gusy have to speak with your parents with all scenerios.

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But firstly it is upto him na he is not giving me commitment for this and starts avoiding the conversation whenever i try to talk about this . Like today in the morning i talked about this topic he is behaving awkwardly since then

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Anonymous
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That why i tol talk with him clearly he is ready to marry with you or not may be he dont want that why he makes all this things to not to marry you

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Anonymous
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Okay i will try to talk to him but if he denies to talk on this topic ?

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You have to be talk with him even he denie talk again and again … tell him that you want clear and cut conversation simple.

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Anonymous
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You should be assured that he will marry you only after 5 years. What if you reject people because of him and after 5 years or maybe before that he ditches you. It will be worse.

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I tried to confront him for this he just cut the topic and said do you think your parents will wait for such long

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Anonymous
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So he wants you to get married to someone else because he is not ready rn so he can’t?

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Yeah he is saying that it is difficult for me to get detached but we have to

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Anonymous
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Then it is clear. If he really wanted to marry you only he would have never said that. I think he is asking to wait for 5 years as an excuse to get out of this situation for now. It’s just my thought. Rest is up to you. Take care 😊

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He will never commit , so better trust your parents

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He is just giving excuses so that he can get rid off you

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Exactly. Is she brainless or what

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It’s that she is stubborn to have him or get him

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Anonymous
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What do you want to happen?

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I just want him 😒

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Anonymous
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He’s just looking for fun and nothing serious and wants to date casually as what you said. Find other guy to marry.

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Lol leave him

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I am in the situation of the boy two years ago if you gets married his life become hell

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